Saturday, August 22, 2015

In Praise of the Detached Garage


I recently chatted with a friend about our neighbors. We both want to connect with them in more meaningful ways, yet find it surprisingly difficult to do so.

Before I could launch in to my own list of reasons, she mentioned her biggest barrier: “Everyone in my neighborhood has an attached garage. The door goes up and back down, and we never actually see each other.”

For a split-second, it sounded like a winning situation. There’s something in me, and maybe in many of us, that craves anonymity and privacy. One of the things I miss most about our farmhouse was the freedom to feed the barn cats in my bathrobe without the threat of discovery. Here in the city, my neighbors might expect a bit more from me than the two ponies we raised in the pasture or the suspiciously extroverted groundhog.

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Happy Weekending!



8 comments:

  1. Your link doesn't work... :)

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    1. You can read the full article here... http://www.elkharttruth.com/discussions/2015/08/20/Shannan-Martin-1.html

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    2. And Sheila - Thank you times a million!

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  2. Thanks so much for this. I lived in "town" (defined as about 2 blocks, maybe 4 if you count stragglers!) for many years and the neighbors were all pretty close nit. We had parties, we still get invited to, we took time to sit down and chat, or walk by and spend the time chatting. I had all the neighborhood kids at my house, either through babysitting or just because ours was the yard to play in. I loved it, but longed to be left alone on occasion. Sometimes boundaries were not kept. Now, I sort of miss it living out of town- small as it was. I would not trade the farmgirl life now that I finally have it, I am not leaving!!!

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  3. Happy you share these post so us non-locals can read along : )

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  4. Absolutely love the columns you are writing! I am SO relating to your farm-girl-in-the-city posts since that's what I am now. :)

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  5. As always, right on target. Sitting in church today.... oh my. Girl. Friend. Preach, or just share the frozen peach pie, because you are so on target. You're apron and boots brought us this far. Keep walking. Atticus always said, 'you don't really know a person...' till you walk around in their shoes. Get to know them. Sometimes, folks don't know they/we/I need a connection. #walktochurch. I tell my kids, the internet is like the tower of Babel. Good only if we use it right. But if we use it to isolate, stick our heads in the sand.... Oh my, and leave others behind. #detachedgarage If this didn't sound like a thank you. It was.

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