Thursday, August 21, 2014

15


Did you guys know today is legendary?

15 years ago today, I donned a puffy, too-short dress, re-routed myself past the "center aisle door" that had mysteriously been BOARDED SHUT for reasons I still don't know, walked down the aisle towering a full head over my cute Dad, and married the man God gave me for life.

We are similar in so many ways and also polar opposites in others, which probably makes us an ideal match. I learn from his example everyday and look forward to nothing more than our low-key evenings puttering around this little house or watching shows from the couch.

If you're tempted to believe our story has been edged in roses, you're wrong. We have fought for us. We still fight (both figuratively and the other way.) I've linked to this before, but I shared our love story right here. I just re-read it and it makes my insides bunch up over all the ways we've been saved and then saved again.

He just invited me out for tacos, so I've gotta skate.

But here's one more thing I keep forgetting to tell you about. I had the fun opportunity to chat on-air with Lynne Ford of the Mid-Morning Show last week. As someone with a history of "forgetting" when I'm being filmed/recorded or otherwise memorializing actual, verbal words that might live in the stratosphere in infamy, these events are always ripe for catastrophe. I'm happy to say that, despite repeated efforts not to cough on air, our convo was fun, but not in a way that will make it onto an unfortunate Pinterest meme. I call that success! 

If you'd like, you can have a listen right here. (Click "download file" to make the magic happen.) The interview is just ten minutes and should you be alarmed by my rugged, manly voice, be reminded that I was battling a cold. (That's my story and I'm sticking to it.)

In honor of today, because I like hearing your voices, tell me something about your love story. Or the love story you've prayed for. Or the one that broke your heart. It can be happy or sad or funny or boring. I've lived every chapter and I'm sure to do it again.

Love and salsa forever,
Shannan

50 comments:

  1. My now-husband and I fell in love on a cross-country road trip. First kiss at the grand canyon. It's a good thing we liked each other since we were in the car together for over a week!

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    1. That is, road trip across the country. Not cross-country as in running. No way.

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    2. Love it! And hoofing it to the Grand Canyon sounds like a bad idea. I like your way better. :)

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    3. I remember talking to you, Kelly McGuffie, the night or two before you went on that road trip! That seems so long ago, but it wasn't really!

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  2. I married my Sunday School teacher! :-) Our first date was Oct 1....engaged in Dec....married in March. It's been 28 years...some of them wonderful, some of them very hard. We are now empty nesters and new grandparents and loving it! Our favorite part of the day is curling up on the couch and watching an episode....or 2...or 3...of Burn Notice!

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    1. The couple who stays up too late watching TV together stays together??
      I'm thinking you and I are proof of it.

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  3. When we first got married we had a crazy makeshift lofted bed for extra storage. We literally did a run and jump to get into bed :) and Im no shorty at almost 6'. Every morning of that first year or two my sweet man lifted/lowered me out of bed. Now at year 6 the sweetness continues in other ways and every once in a while he lifts me from bed in the morning and reminds me of our first year married.

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  4. Happy Anniversary...today is my anniversary also! The big 10! Hope y'all have a fun day together!!! :)

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  5. Happy 15th! May your love for each other keep growing stronger with each new day. Your life is a blessing and inspiration to many.

    I met my future husband on my 17th birthday. We started dating a few months later, got married almost three years later, and through ups and downs, laughter and tears, our love continued to grow up until he went to be with Jesus 20 months and 12 days ago. We were married 43 years. I miss him daily. He was my best friend, the love of my life. I look forward to being reunited whenever that will be. Even though he is gone, my love for him continues to grow.

    FlowerLady

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    1. Oh, friend. This is so beautiful and a reminder to all of us to love the best we can. I'm so glad you have such a sweet love story....and that, like you said, this isn't the end.
      Thanks for sharing.
      xo

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  6. Met my man whilst country line dancing! Lol. We became friends, happened to work across the street from one another, did lunches and rides together. On Jan 7, 1994(middle of a gigantic ice storm) I needed a ride out to where we danced, called him for a ride! Everyone in the place thought it was a date!! He took me home at the end of the night, walked me to my door, leaned in and kissed me. I melted. The rest is history! Almost 20 years, 5 children, and 4 houses later, we're still fighting for "us" as well!!

    Happy Happy Anniversary!!! Xoxoxox

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  7. Jay and I have been together 10 years...we got married two years ago. We have fought and struggled through the entire thing...but we've done it together. He gets up with me EVERY MORNING to pack my lunch and tie my shoes (I can do it myself, but he says he likes to do it for me). He holds me together when everything else is falling apart. We are, like you said, polar opposites in some ways and so alike in others.

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  8. We've been married for 4 years now and its not always easy. He is the most loving and selfless man I've ever met. He makes my coffee every morning, without fail, even though he hates coffee and the smell. But he knows I need it and love it and does it anyway.

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  9. We met in college. Just friends for a long time, which was more me than him. He was the opposite of everything (I thought) I wanted in a guy. He tricked me into our first "date". I was told a group was getting together to go see a movie but by the time we were leaving, everyone else had suspiciously cancelled and it was just the two of us. I guess it worked :)

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  10. I met my husband when I was 16 and we were married when I was barely 18. Thirty-six years in and empty nesters and we are crazy in love and having SO MUCH FUN now that the five kids are gone!

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  11. I was in a serious car accident in which I was broadsided by a drunk driver @ 90 mph. I woke up in the hospital 2 days later with a man standing over me and his hand on my forehead praying. That man and I are together 22 years later. He is so patient and kind amongst my strong willed independent ways. He is the prayer warrior of this house. He keeps us together.

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  12. I knew my then-boyfriend was the man I would marry right after the Northridge quake. He slipped past security and broke into my red-tagged dorm room to get my purse, keys, and some clothes. He brought me all of that... plus my good sewing scissors! <3

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  13. Happy 15 Shannan! Hubs and I celebrated our 15th in June and your wedding photo reminds me so much of mine, poofy dress and all. Have fun celebrating! xo

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  14. I met my husband on aols dating sight over ten years ago. We just talked on the phone and the computer for about 3 months even though we lived in the same town. I was dating someone else off and on and I thought my hubby was kind of goofy. Then one Friday night my date's truck broke down when he was supposed to take me to dinner and Steve - my hubby- called and invited me to dinner and I impulsively accepted (after all I was all dressed up anyways) we had so much fun we went to lunch the very next day also and we've been together ever since.

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  15. Hi Shannan! I believe we are on a similar life loop of some kind, because my husband and I had our 15th anniversary on 1 May and I will soon celebrate the same birthday you did not long ago. I met him in college when I was dating his roommate--we went on double dates together, me with the roommate and him with the girlfriend he'd had since 7th grade. When those relationships ended we became friends, then he told me he was going to marry me, then we went to Hardee's late one night and were inseparable from that moment on. We got a kitten our first summer together and she just turned 18 on Sunday (she is, sad to say, looking rough these days but is hanging in). He is good, he is smart, he is funny, and he is kind. I still can't figure out what he saw in this ordinary, small town girl. But he makes me feel like he saw/sees everything he could ever want. I can't imagine doing anything, much less growing old, without him. Hope your anniversary tacos hit the spot. Bestest wishes for many, many more...

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  16. My husband and I met online. He put his location as CA (his homestate). I had moved to AZ the year before. But he was really in the UK (military). So we always say our relationship began on a lie since his location was deceptive. We started writing and then long phone calls - back before Facetime or good cell phones. We used phone cards. LOTS of phone cards. We met in person in October - hung out for a couple of weeks - got engaged at the beginning of those couple weeks. He went back to England to finish out his time. We were supposed to get married in July, but we eloped just a couple of days after he returned to the States in January. Whirlwind. It's been a journey --- and we've had some rough patches -- years. but we are in a good place by the grace of God.

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  17. My hubby and don't have much in common.I don’t know how we fit together so well when we’re made so drastically different. It doesn’t make any sense.

    All I know is that we make each other laugh, make each other happy. We are best friends and never want to do anything without the other. We are each others' favorite people.

    I realize now that us together isn’t supposed to make sense at all. I’ll never understand what someone so amazing could ever possibly see in me. He’ll always be too smart, too nice, too handsome, too everything for me. And that’s the way it should be.

    Because the best marriages are between two people who each wholeheartedly believe they married up.

    Happy Anniversary!!!

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  18. My love and I met when we were 14 and 16, were married at 17 and 19 and will celebrate 34 years on October 18 which is the same day our son will be married. We can't wait to celebrate the big day with the marriage of our baby!

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  19. Aaron and I met folding t-shirts at a factory. He sidled over to me to strike up some conversation, and I thought he was in high school. (I was 21, and he was 20.) It was a long road, but he finally won me over. After I said no to the first proposal. I'm so glad he kept trying.

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  20. Tacos- yum! Hope they were delicious and happy anniversary!

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  21. The day I met Dave I swear I heard God say "this is the man you'll marry" but I thought that was crazy. We were friends for a year (I liiiiiked him so much) then back and forth if we were going to try dating (Dave couldn't make up his mind - I tease him still). Started dating in March (officially), engaged in August (he wrote a song and sang it with a full band and recorded it in a studio!), and married in December! I love that man.

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  22. We met when I was 17 and he was 18. We were both dating other people. Then we dated, broke up, dated, broke up, and finally he asked me to marry him. People thought it would never last...we were so different, we argued (theology, background differences, he's a risk taker, and I play it safe...you name it)...but we just celebrated 46 years. We, too, have fought for "us", and Jesus has fought for us. "It's been mercy all the way." Happy anniversary, lovely Martins! You inspire us all.

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  23. 20 years ago on the 20th I married the love of my life. but dang he has been the thorn in my flesh also - LOL! We met at when his baby sister married my baby brother and we walked up together in their wedding. He flirted shamelessly with me but I was dating a tall, handsome classy guy - and he is short, cute & honest. and not classy except in the all important area of truly caring about people! 3 months later he came to visit Colorado where I lived at the time and he broke up my relationship with Mr.Handsome. He still makes me crazy with his lack of refinement ;) but we are living this life together and I am so so thankful that God knew my perfect match!!

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  24. Our love story began in a coffee shop. In our mid 50's. His wife of 20 years had passed away after a brave but long and futile fight with cancer. It had worn him out like an old blanket, edges frayed, tender, sore.

    My husband of 20 years had left me for a woman 15 years younger than me, pretty, blond, green eyes, he told me. I never saw it coming. I was out of shape, with a few gray hairs starting to show. And now I was broken into a thousand bits of glass, ripped from all that moored me to the shores of my existence.

    So there we were, both holding damaged hearts, aching for different reasons. Broken spirits, making the motions of getting through just one more day, just one more hour, just one more minute of aching spirit. Numb, our routines seemed to be similar: Stop by the coffee shop each morning to grab an espresso before heading off to work. After a few weeks we would nod acknowledgement to one another. Gradually a "good morning" was thrown about quickly, superficially, single-layers of communication. Then came the kindness of holding open doors, a smile now and then. Months of small steps. Months of bleeding hurt and never trusting and not wanting any more to do with partners, lovers, wives and husbands. Eventually, an awakening of something deep within, a recognition of a like-minded spirit. I admired his volunteer work, and his kindness to strangers. I dared to hope that we might be friends. Secretly, he too had the same prayer. Good morning nods became one sentence greetings, then eventually there were two sentences passed, with each passing week, conversations became longer, and delays out the door to work became greater. Then came the sitting down at a table together, where discussions about current events and kids were safe and comfortable.

    Love happened over a two year period of coffee table faith, trust and acceptance.

    Here were are, celebrating our 8th year together. God is good.

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  25. I started to comment yesterday, but then deleted it. I read through these comments today and decided to comment. I feel happy for those of you who have such wonderful life partners. I thought I'd add some of my reality to the mix. I was married for 21 years to a man who came from an extremely dysfunctional family, had suffered terrible physical, emotional, verbal and sexual abuse (unbeknownst to me at the time). I do believe that some people cannot recover from such horrific abuse. He could never grasp the meaning of grace and to this day believes he doesn't deserve God's love and has to earn it somehow. I had two beautiful children with this man, so will never regret the marriage, in addition to what I learned about myself and others while enduring our time together. I was verbally and emotionally abused for many of the years we were together and lived with him in his deep depression that nothing could lift. He eventually had an affair and I thank God for it, because it brought God's peace to my life. We divorced 4 years ago. I continue to survive, despite financial hardships, health issues and loneliness. I pray that if it is God's will, He will bring another man into my life, a Godly man who will honor me as I deserve to be honored. I celebrate with those of you who are in loving relationships. Don't ever take it for granted.

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    1. Praying for you Twyla, that you would know how very loved you are.

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    2. Oh, Twyla, I was you... 25 years ago I was you – divorced after 9.5 years of marriage, two beautiful children, non-stop verbal abuse, and his affair and depression. I had no idea how I and the Christian man I married had ended up in such a sad state. All these years later, I sometimes wonder how it is God chose to bring my now-husband of 24 years into my life, but I am so thankful! And no, I never take that for granted. We cherish each other and work hard to be a couple God can use to shine His light in our dark world.

      There may – or may not – be another husband in your future, but I'm praying right now that the enemy will not deceive you into thinking you are less worthy because you are divorced or man-less. Instead, I pray God will hold your focus, minister to your lonely heart, and teach you wisdom. You are loved!

      "Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold. She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor." Proverbs 3:13-16 ESV

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    3. Adding my voice to the chorus here. I'm so thankful you had the courage to share part of your story. This thread needed some of that reality, because I know you are not alone. I know your words will be a balm to someone else who needed to believe they weren't the only one.

      "What appears as incomplete is still completely Yours" -- a favorite song lyric, but I'm thinking of it now and singing it to you. Your story is not over.

      So much love to you, Twyla.

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  26. I met my husband shortly before my 18th birthday and we were married a year and a half later. We'll be celebrating #14 this December. He's smart and weird and handles me like a pro. God sure showered me with grace when it came to him, because I had no idea what I was doing when I agreed to marry him...all I knew was this cute boy liked Aerosmith and had a tattoo and he liked me a whole lot. Grace, lots of grace.

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  27. He: "I've been thinking about what I want in a wife if I ever get remarried, and you have all those things."
    Me: "(terrified) I am nowhere near ready to think about getting married. I don't know if I will ever be. I don't need a husband. I don't need 4 more kids!"
    He" "That's okay. We can still be friends, right? This doesn't have to make things weird?"
    15 years, 8 kids between us and 10 grandchildren later, we're still friends. And things are weird sometimes. And, I was wrong. I need them all.

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  28. I absolutely loved reading these. Though I haven't been with my husband very long (3 years married, 5-1/2 since we started dating) I still wanted to share mine. I met my husband in 4th grade. I was at my friend's house just a few blocks away from my home and we were practicing cartwheels under a large willow tree. He was (and is) a very confident young man and headed right over to introduce himself. I thought it was strange someone could live in our neighborhood but not go to the same elementary school (his mom taught at another so he got around the zoning) so that moment stuck out in my mind. Fast forward a few years and in 8th grade I sought him out knowing he had a few cowlicks and could comfort my little brother that his weren't the end of the world. Fast forward to graduating high school and we became inseparable as we attended the same college in the fall. He waited his turn as I tried to make a long distance relationship work and then swore off dating for a few years. Our senior year of college I gave in and we shook on it :). We married 2-1/2 years later and have now been married 3. He is finishing up medical school and we are expecting our first baby in a few weeks! I couldn't be more happy to get to do this life with anyone else. We both say we want the job of watching love stories play out from Heaven. :) Thankful for that day in 4th grade under the willow trees!

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    1. Such sweetness and stories like this always make me look at my 4th grader a little differently...because you never do know! :)

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  29. My husband and I met when I was 19 and he was 22. My friend was dating his friend, we all went to a party together, and him and I hit it off. Our union started a little rocky. We had a lot of fun but we also fought a lot. I wasn't sure he was my forever man. When I was 21 I got pregnant. Long story but we were not getting along well and I decided to move 1500 miles away from him to live with my mom. After the birth of our son, we reunited and got married. In the following 4 years we had 3 more kids, finished college (both of us) moved across the country and started new jobs. Somewhere along the way with the kids and the stress and money and just real life we decided that we were done. I still loved him, and he loved me but we had reached a point where we didn't know how to make it work. So we decided to get a divorce. And a painful, ugly divorce it was. But even through the ugliness there was an underlying, deeply buried love we still both had for each other. So after 10 months apart, we decided to get back together. A year later we got remarried. Everyone said, the rate of divorce after a remarriage is 80%, all your old problems will resurface, it will never work. Guess what? 23 years later its still working. Sounds weird but getting divorced was what saved our marriage. It taught us to be patient, to not take the other for granted, to learn how to communicate. Our two youngest (twins) just left for their freshman year of college. I am grateful every day we took a second chance to make it work.

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    1. I love this so much. I'm probably going to have to share it...

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  30. I read this earlier, but didn't have time to comment. We were married on the same day!! That's cool enough to bring a lurker out, ha. Except we're in New Zealand, so it's an earlier time zone, and our wedding was at 10am, but the calendar page was the same when each of us said our "I do"s. It's been a good 15 years, sure there has been hard, but it's been good.

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  31. We met the very first day of kindergarten...broke up in fifth grade because he said my brother had a big head (literally...which he does) but I was an overprotective older sister. We had drama in high school and didn't speak to each for years then dated senior year of college and he proposed two years later in our kindergarten classroom! :)

    Happy Anniversary! Love reading these incredible stories of love and God's grace.
    Amber :)

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  32. So many sweet stories! My beau and I have been together for 10 years (we met in my last semester of college). We parted ways for a time, but found our way back to each other. In April of 2015, five days after the 11th anniversary of our first date, we will say "I do."

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