Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Family Is More Than Blood


Before we adopted for the first time, I had only a vague idea about "orphans". I knew they existed in damp countries where townspeople wearing shades of brown and gray stood in line for bread rations. I pictured dark-skinned babies with distended tummies and Chinese orphanage rooms lined with rickety cribs.

Not in a million years did I picture faces that would one day form my family.

One of the magical things about adoption is that God always knows. It doesn't come as a surprise to Him. His walls are lined with family pictures that would take our breath away if we were to get just a glimpse. We think the one hanging on our wall is it. We think we know things, or that our family is already complete. But we don't even know the half of it.

Fifteen years ago, I daydreamed about knobby-kneed, fair-skinned kids with sticking-out ears and (fingers crossed!) Cory's blue eyes. But God had already decided something better for me.

Our family grew, and I forget sometimes that we don't share blood. We share time and space, a history that is whole enough to carry us home. We share laughs and germs and rants and prayers. We are a family.

And still, we grow.

This afternoon I rushed between dinner prep and homework when the front door opened and Robert and his best friend Fernando tumbled in, all long limbs and pierced tongues. They sat at the island for not nearly long enough and somewhere in between their stories and nonsense, Fernando referred to Cory as "Dad". Oh, I saw this one coming. It made me smile.

Because family is so much more than blood. And no one was meant to be alone.

The needle draws us together, pulls us near, and with every stitch, we're closer to what we were always meant to be. And with every stitch, our love grows, covering us and all the ones left standing cold around us until the shivering stops and we know that what we are together is real.

I can't say for sure that you're meant to adopt. But chances are, you're meant to be impacted by adoption. In one way or another, I believe you're meant to see that what the world calls brokenness can be a thing of sure beauty, adorned in the best possible ways, unexpected and entirely holy.

It could be a niece, a nephew, a grandchild, a godchild. Maybe your best friend will adopt, or your neighbor.

Maybe you're not as close to "done" as you thought.

This week, I'm partnering with one of my favorite companies, Sevenly, for a campaign to raise funding for the adoption of children with Down syndrome

Though not all birth families feel equipped to meet the needs of a child with Down syndrome, there are families who want to knit these children to their hearts through adoption, but struggle to afford the high cost.


Your purchase of the rad tee I'm wearing, or others, like this one (another favorite of mine!) helps a child with Down syndrome find their loving forever family through adoption grants funded by International Down Syndrome Coalition. (They even have Kiddo Ts!)

Help change a life and be cute & comfy while you do it!




Outtake :)

25 comments:

  1. I already own 2 "sevenly shirts"....looks like it might just have to become 3!

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  2. Love this! How does the shirt fit....true to size? Can I nosily ask what size you ordered?

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    1. I'm trying to confirm if I have a S or XS. I will let you know asap!

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  3. Such a lovely post. For years I've had a niggling in the back of my mind that quite possibly the Lord would guide and direct our family to adoption. We are still trying to learn His will. With 4 (and #5 coming in July) of our own I have heard it gets harder to adopt if you have so many children already. What a beautiful cause from Sevenly today. I have 2 brothers-in-law and a 3 year old nephew with Down Syndrome and my heart wonders if that will be our adoption path down the road. As always, your posts are beautiful and a highlight of my day :)

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  4. I love how you described the family portraits hanging on the wall's of God's home. That is how I have always thought of adoption, as God building the family that he sees. As we continue our adoption journey my prayer is constantly that He would send to us the children that he sees in our family portrait! Thank you for your beautiful words. :)
    www.wearforeverfam.blogspot.com

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  5. LOVE THIS! We are coming up on a year home with our daughter who we adopted and who has Down syndrome. I hope that people see through her life and through our choice to bring her into our family that Down syndrome is not a tragedy - it is a gift. I am thankful every day that I get to be her mommy! If anyone is considering adopting a child with Down syndrome, I'm happy to lend an ear, a prayer or answer any questions! Our family blog is: www.babykautzi.blogspot.com

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    1. Love-Love-Love this!
      " I am thankful every day that I get to be her mommy!"
      :)

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  6. Cool cool shirt. And that Ruby is getting tall. Waaaaa it's been so long:/

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  7. Awww, major heart-tug! We know God has called us to adopt and can't wait to meet whatever little person or people He's already decided is part of our weird little crew. (Love that necklace too! Fab!)
    Kelly @ View Along the Way

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    1. Thanks, Mama!
      The necklace is 31 Bits - another one of my loves. :)
      So excited to see where God is leading you guys!

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  8. Well, you *know* I love this! Can't wait to see you and this crew.

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  9. oh i want that shirt! and it's my birthday month so maybe i'll get it!

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  10. I forwarded this to everyone I know. These words. Man, oh man.

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  11. I love this. I'm the proud auntie to two nieces who each were born with that special extra chromosome. They are gifts from God, those two. They were born just 3 weeks apart, one to my brother and his wife and the other to my husband's sister and her husband. They're 2 1/2 now and they light up the world. I have the utmost appreciation for those who bring in these extra special ones and love them as their own.

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  12. Wonderful! Our son was adopted domestically and our daughter from China. We are so blessed. I'd love to adopt again. I'm also writing our story--including our adoption story--at www.thisoddhouse.org. I haven't reached the meat of the adoption part yet, but it's coming soon. Also, ordering my T-shirt right now! Love it!

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  13. I love this yet to be honest it makes me really sad. We have 3 kiddos but wanted to add to our family - 3 miscarriages later and now, a year into the process, and thousands and thousands of dollars, the federal government just shut down our adoption agency. Can they help us get money back? Nope. Can they help us with a referral? Nope? After a year of being excited about adoption and already having our hearts and our kids hearts ready for someone,there is suddenly no one coming home. But I am most definitely so happy for everyone who is able to adopt successfully.

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  14. I love this yet to be honest it makes me really sad. We have 3 kiddos but wanted to add to our family - 3 miscarriages later and now, a year into the process, and thousands and thousands of dollars, the federal government just shut down our adoption agency. Can they help us get money back? Nope. Can they help us with a referral? Nope? After a year of being excited about adoption and already having our hearts and our kids hearts ready for someone,there is suddenly no one coming home. But I am most definitely so happy for everyone who is able to adopt successfully.

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    1. I'm so sorry. This is beyond frustrating and I can't imagine your pain. It's so hard, but trust God has a purpose in this. He's guiding you to exactly where you need to be - that sweet spot, where he'll show his promises. He hasn't left you. I promise!

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  15. Love this...as so many others do. Would you be willing to let us feature this post on We Are Grafted In? Just let me know.
    Stephanie
    Administrator of WAGI
    Stephanie@sparrow-fund.org

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  16. I just came across your website. I would love this shirt but can't find it on their page

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  17. I love that picture. My sister has adopted 4 children and they are all American citizens but were put into foster care. They really great thing that she did that I absolutely loved was she adopted some of the older children. One of her sons was 4 when she adopted him, one was 6 and the other two were 2.

    Ayesha Covert @ ChildNet Youth and Family Services

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