Friday, August 30, 2013

This All Makes Perfect Sense if You Know Us


It was a legendary week.
Two dates in six days. BOOOOM.

I don't know why, but I always want to blog about our dates. It feels important. Significant, even.
Life-changing? Paradigm-shifting? Perhaps.

They return me to my soul and my sanity, that's all. No big deal.

I have noticed some patterns emerging in recent years.
It's normal for dates to involve food, but do most dates involve naps? The good ones do.

Date Day: Saturday



Though I'm inclined to gloss over the details, I'll go ahead and spill it because secrets make me twitchy. We had 6 hours together and hardly any cash. So, we did what any reasonable people would do: Lunch at Chipotle with a gift card courtesy of Memorial Hospital. (Thanks for all the bravery, Calv!)

Then we weren't miserably full, so we grabbed kiddie scoops of Ritters Custard (Red Raspberry and Heath, split down their middles).

We talked about seeing a movie, ended up at our favorite divey park (the one where you found out I'm secretly all ripped and shredded), read a few pages in our books...and promptly fell asleep under a shade tree. Just like last time.

We roused ourselves in time for a splurgey dinner at Olive Garden.

So basically, eat, eat, sleep, eat.
AKA, Heaven.


Date Night: Thursday

We've already clarified that I have no interest in trying to appear cool, yes?
Well, I love Phillips Craig and Dean.
Or, as I like to call them: Bill Murray, Rick Warren, and Cory's Former Boss.

I promise you know some of their songs. This is my favorite. No, thisThis. Whatever. They're all good. They're the Christian REO Speedwagon, and don't tell me that doesn't entice you.

Calvin tried to come with us, but we escaped kidless, clutch in hand.

I'll cut to the chase: I've never felt younger or cooler, and that's saying something. We were in the very back row, which was perfect, because here's something else you need to know about me: I will not stand, clap, or repeat things back on command. Won't do it. That's the hill I've chosen to die on.

So while all our elders stood and clapped around, we parked it and watched the big screen. It was so good and I'm not just saying that because they had chimes.

After 14 years together, I just still really like my guy, beard and all. (Though if I had my druthers...) I like hanging out with him. I like that I can be opinionated and quiet with him. I'm glad that I can wake him up just as he's falling asleep to re-hash something that's already been hashed to death. I like it that he lets me sleep in some Saturdays. I like it that he encourages my salsa habit.

Next concert on our list? Avett Brothers. Or Mumford. It must happen. I don't know. Cory won't shut up about it until it happens. He may have to sell a limb, but Chaplains don't really need two arms, do they?

What's your date routine? Are you weirdos or normal people?
What's the best concert you've ever been to?

I'm full of questions and it's a 3-day weekend.
Lay it on me. Thick.


68 comments:

  1. Love it! And you MUST see The Avetts. We went to three of their shows within about 13 months last year and JUST found out they'll be in our area in November! Fantastic shows with extremely loyal audiences who know most of their songs. So fun. (And by "we" I mean my hubby, our two grown kids and their spouses. So here's the thing - once the kids flee the nest, every night in at home feels sort of like date night. So when we get the chance to do something fun outside the house, we really, really like it if our kids get to come. They are our favorite people.) Glad you guys are enjoying each other. Stay friends -- it will eventually be just the two of you again one of these days! :-)

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  2. With all the craziness in our lives right now we consider a drive into town (takes us 25 minutes)and a peruse around the store at a slow pace. Sitting outside on our bench at night while the sun goes down, or talking and walking in the field amongst the sunflowers. We are blessed to have a 20 year old who is moved out and 1 child at home age 13 1/2. Dates to us is just time together doing a project, gardening, going to the lumberyard or hardware store.

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  3. "I will not stand, clap, or repeat things back on command."

    Right on. That's my favorite hill to die on.

    I laughed at you and with you reading this post. That means I love you.

    I zoomed in on the beard. I'm not even lying.

    Bye.

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  4. You are the coolest. I love him so much because he supports your salsa habit. I mean, honestly, what is more important than that? I can think of nothing.

    Gary and I haven't had a date in a while. I think we went to our favorite Italian restaurant in Souderton in March. I think but I am not 100% sure. Soon we will go out. Soon.

    I also love Phillips, Craig and Dean.

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  5. Eat, nap, eat - :)

    BTW, broke dates are so in. Culver's a "kid sundae" that is a perfect size for treating yourself practically guilt-free, too.

    We recently had a date-night, er afternoon, where we used a gift card to Olive Garden. That was splurgy, yet free heaven.

    As for concerts, last Christmas I bought a surprise Valentine's weekend gift for hubby - 2 tickets to see John Denver "Live in Concert." I'll wait. Anything? Um, are you asking, "Isn't John Denver, um, dead?" Yes. Yes, he is. You see, with permission (and significant input) from the estate, John's former band is touring with a 2 hour compiled video. The band plays on stage and the video plays behind them and the only thing missing is John - which sounds freaky...and was for about 5 songs. But, soon enough we realized that everyone - band and audience - were there to honor John and his legacy. By the end of the night we were all signing Rocky Mountain High in tears. So, best concert ever...with my sweety...watchin' a dead guy sing-a-long. LOL!

    Highly recommend that concert if anyone reading is old enough to know who John Denver is ;)

    Oh, and I *never* wake up my hubby to re-hash a story...ever.
    Usually. Read: often.

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  6. Mercy Came Runnin' like a prisoner set free... yes I am singing that now. That song was popular (I think?) the year I came to Christ. I have a pleasant memory of that song, but other than that I turn the channel most of the time when I hear Philips, Craig and Dean. (Sorry friend - but I do secretly like all of the old stuff by Point of Grace.)

    "I will not stand, clap or repeat things back on command." Yes - that's me - which made it really hard for me my decade-plus being Pentecostal. (I love many aspects of that faith, but not being told to give Jesus a clap-offering - sorry - I cringe.) (Sadly, now I am one of the few people at our new-ish church who raises her hands because I don't want to be commanded to do nothing either, haha)

    Anyhoo - dates - our last time out was for C's preschool orientation - we grabbed ice cream on the way home (drive-thru). Before that...? We don't get out much. We usually eat and walk around a bookstore. And then get coffee or ice cream.

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    1. OMW, the infamous "clap offering"! hahaha! I cringe, too.
      This whole comment cracks me up, but give the guys another chance!
      No Revelation Song? Say What???

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    2. Love Revelation Song ... the Kari Jobe version. :)

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  7. I cannot tell you how relieved I am to hear you say you don't do the clapping on command thingy - I am allergic to it! I bet you demure with more grace than me though! I would love to see the Mumfords in action. I wish I had seen the Proclaimers way back singing Sunshine on Leith live - Scottish band from the nineties - you might have to look 'em up! X

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    1. Every time they told the audience to do something I said (audibly), "Nope." Is that the grace you were hoping for?

      Nope.

      :)

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    2. Out loud? Like, loudly? Girl, I love you! I just look grumpy, possibly with arms folded. Room for grace fo sho!!x

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    3. Well, I mean, we were in the back row of a concert so I'm not sure that I caused a scene. Cory laughed every time, which was all I could have hoped for. :)

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  8. U2, baby, first time twenty three years ago- and then more recently, five years ago. I guess that dates me

    I love your likening PC&D to REO Speedwagon! Lol it's true. They aren't usually my cup of tea, but that Revelation Song should have won them a Dove. Tbh, I don't know any more of their stuff, but will have listen to your links once I get out wonky WiFiland.

    As for date night, I don't think we had one for years, but when we did, it ALWAYS involved eating out. Peace. Quiet. Uninterrupted conversation

    Happy three day weekend!

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  9. Wow! 2 dates. My husband and I drove to Stop and Shop alone this week, then promptly had twelve thousand phone calls from home...yep that's about what our dates are like! (kids 14, 9)...tonight we are going to Providence with another couple...so I will count this....hopefully all remains calm on the home front!

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  10. You will NOT be dying on that hill alone, so I hope you picked a big enough hill for me to join you!

    LOVE, LOVE Phillips, Craig and Dean. Wish we could have "double dated".

    Our favorite dates are Chicken Bryan from Carrabbas (take out), in our jammies, on the couch watching multiple episodes of The West Wing....being empty nesters we can now have great dates at home!

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    1. Chicken Bryan. SO MUCH GOAT CHEESE!
      I love it. But...I love Pasta Sostanza even more and I shall never look back!
      Cory can't manage to find a single thing on the menu he approves of, so we never go there. I go with Sarah instead, once in a blue moon.

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  11. love this post, love date nights, love Olive Garden, can't say that I love that beard though! I think that you need to stage an intervention.

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    1. Ha!!! I have let the beard go. He knows it's not my favorite, but I guess it's an acceptable mid-life crisis. :)

      What I really need to know is: Whats your favorite thing at OG?

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    2. oh you guys are too young for the mid-life crisis - save it for when your kids hit the teenage years.
      This probably sounds pathetic, but my favorite thing is the soup, salad and endless bread sticks. We've been living overseas for the last 12 years and get back to the States about once every 2 years, but I always get to OG for one of those lunches. Only in America do you find unlimited refills!

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    3. oops, just remembered that you do already have teenagers, so I guess he's entitled.

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  12. I don't listen to them often but "You are God alone" gets me every time! It reminds me of the time I saw someone buying a gold statue of of a "god" at Walmart. Seriously. So thankful we serve a living God, one not created by human hands. (PS: I will think of you the next time I am a rebel and don't conform to the masses, ha!)

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  13. The Newsboys - best concert ever. I was excited about it but it far exceeded my expectations b/c we got to take our finally grown up enough to enjoy it as a family kids, and it led me into worship. Serious worship that I wasn't expecting. Our dates are....fun. Anything makes me happy! Maybe a ride after dark to see a big house that my husband wanted to show me, that he found on his work commute. (He works outside DC, nuff said) Sometimes we eat, usually we drink coffee. We talk. We have fun together. I laugh at his jokes, which makes us both happy. Many times we try to go on the cheap. Life isn't free, that's for sure! Sometimes we splurge. The other night he took me out for dessert at a place we had never been to. That's his style!

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    1. You live near DC? We used to live in Arlington!!
      Go say Hi to my old boss for me. I miss him. haha

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  14. Was Shawn seriously Cory's former boss? That's crazy! He was our music minister way back when we lived in St. Louis & went to South County Christian Center. One week when my mama had flown in to visit us, she struck up a conversation with Shawn & they realized they had gone to the same podunk high school in Louisiana (years apart of course). Small world, huh? :-)

    As for date routines, we don't really have one. Our daughter is a senior in high school this year, so we really can do whatever, whenever (and often do!).

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    1. ha! Sorry, no. Shawn wasn't his boss. He just LOOKS exactly like his old boss. :)

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  15. Naps...sounds like a pretty dreamy date to me! Haha...dreamy...really, no pun intended. Our dates are few and far between...we try to eat somewhere local, or cheap. And we like to take a drive somewhere...usually we have ice-cream. We're pretty simple, too. We've also been known to peruse a bookstore, mostly in separate sections. We reconvene for coffee. As for the coolest concert...early in our marriage, Brett and I saw the Eagles. Also, my brother and I went to a Jimmy Buffett concert together while we were in college. I don't stand or clap on command, either. Happy weekend!

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  16. John and I went to see Avett last year - 2 years ago? I don't know. It was awesome. Outside concert, moon hanging low over the stage, the air smelling of October and also pot. But you know, you can't win 'em all.

    I like your speed for sure - naps, food, more food, refusal to obey stage commands.

    It's all just right.

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  17. We have been married 33 years and continuing to date has kept the fires burning! Our favorite s to get away to a little B&B somewhere for a weekend, but we have a weekly Panera coffee and bagel date where we sit and hash out plans for the week and month and keep our dreams going. Keep dating, it's the secret to a happy marriage!

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  18. High five for date nights!

    -Best date night? When we simply do nothing, but be around each other. Walk around downtown or play tennis or chill. There is something comforting about not having a lot of expectations. The date turns out even better.

    -Best concert? U2 @ the old World Theater in Tinley Park, IL.

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  19. My hubby and I saw Joshua Radin most recently. Amazing. Perfect for your chill vibe that you seem to enjoy in your concert going experience. Enjoy!

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  20. I can't just choose 1 concert, maybe 1 per decade??? Per genre??
    Whatev...
    Here's the first ones that came to mind: Bruce Springsteen, Newsboys/DC Talk, Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, George Strait/Patti Loveless, No Doubt/BNL
    Yep, I like a little bit of everything.
    Haven't been to any in awhile, I just can't handle the crowds anymore.
    I doubt it would take much convincing if someone dropped Mumford tickets in my lap!

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    1. I suppose I should mention my very first concert, as it is the only time I can remember feeling like I would pass out just to see them in person.
      New Kids on The Block!!! Ha!
      25 years later I don't recall how they sounded, but I sure remember the moment that Donnie looked out in the crowd and smiled only at me!
      (yeah right, silly 13 year old girl!)

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    2. Hahaha! I TOTALLY believe he was smiling just at you! :)

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  21. Ok so about Mumford & Sons. I have this thing, a Mumford-deal-breaker if you will. I started running last year and from January to November went from 0 miles per week to running a half-marathon. You didn't REALLY need to know the half-marathon part, but why not brag? So while I ran Mr. Mumford was often on my playlist because a must about my running music is it has to have a good rhythm (duh) but it also has to be able to repeatedly distract me day after day so I forget about the running part. I'd just hear the intros and immediately my brain would take me to the far off UK where I was wearing scarves and hats and things were "brilliant." I've never been there, but now after all those miles and all that time spent with them in my mind, I've made up a rule about them... I WILL see them in concert but it MUST be in a dreamy, smokey, pub somewhere on a British Isle. It must. I can't do Singapore, or a dome or a Colosseum in America, or even some rad outdoor European stop. It's gotta be kinda beer-smelly and raucous. Gotta.

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    1. SO gotta!
      I'm way impressed with your running ways. Cory did the same thing a few years ago. Meanwhile, I can't truck through a single mile!
      At least I have piloxing.

      Did you see on FB that my friend Holly is running a 50-miler on her own to raise $ for a local organization? I'm going to blog about it soon. But you might enjoy the video her bro produced for her. Scroll through my feed!

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    2. Is that the way cool people invite you to become fb friends? Are we already? I don't even know what piloxing is (I didn't click on that link when you wrote about it...mostly because the mystery adds even more coolness). I'll look for the video. The hubs and I have considered making a running video using clips of us in different spots around the world...and I told him a few months back that I wanted it to be (cross my heart) "Below My Feet" by Mumford&Sons for the background music. It may take years to gather enough to make it interesting, but I pretty much think that song will keep the idea inspired enough to do it.

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  22. I laughed out loud when I read about your audible "nope"(s) that's SO me. I'm glad I'm not the only one with a serious attitude problem LOL! on a side note I ordered a clutch after reading your first post about them. I was walking out the door this morning for church and thought man I wish I had my new clutch....checked the mail knowing it would be too soon to really expect it...WRONG! It was in there in all it's new leather smell glory! HAPPY HAPPY day! and on an extra happy note it matched my cowboy boots PERFECTLY! woop woop! thank you for blogging it's a highlight in my day seeing a new post!

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    1. Ooooh...I'm so excited that we're clutch twins!

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  23. I will not stand, clap or repeat things on command either. I'm glad to know I'm not the only oppositional Christian out here. It really annoys me how this has become so standard during worship time. You will not die alone on that hill, but don't expect me to hold your hand.. Forced physical contact is also on my list.

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  24. Best concert - Sara Groves, Fernando Ortega, and Bebo Norman, hands down. My now husband and I felt like the youngest people at the concert as college students! Their music is still my go to centering soundtrack.

    Dates...what are those? :-) Really though - we have season tickets to the MN Opera, and that's about it. Besides those nights (which we do partly because we figure we won't back out on something we already paid for!), we do date nights in a lot - dinner just the two of us after kiddos go to bed, or a movie with gummy bears.

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    1. We're HUGE fans of the late-night date-night at home! Netflix + salsa = Heaven.

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  25. I actually saw Mumford this weekend in Ohio and I say sell the limb...or the kidney or rent a room in your house because it's totally worth it!!! Marcus Mumford and the boys were meant to be heard live!!!!

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  26. We're going to Mumford and Sons next week here in ATL with our best friends. So excited!!! Our date night typically consist of Mexican food or steak and a movie. Oftentimes, with a stroll around B and N afterward for good measure. We usually go out about twice a month due to finances and a husband who travels a ton. I love our date nights and wish they were more frequent! Best concert? Dave Matthews...we've seen them 3 times and they are CRAZY GOOD live!

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  27. As if it's not painfully obvious to all who know me, the following confession(s) will solidify my extreme level of uncoolness.
    I, too, am a fan of Phillips, Craig & Dean. I have yet to see them live but that's because nobody comes to Boise.
    I am not, however, a fan of Mumford & Sons. I don't know for sure if I really don't like them or if it's just a point of being contrary to popular opinion or a little of both. I just can't get into them.
    I am a HUGE fan of Steven Curtis Chapman. Always have been, always will be. I used to have pictures of SCC hanging right next to my posters of NKOTB. I am currently planning on driving 4.5 hours to see him again (his new album will be released on Sept.30. I consider that my PSA for the day.) because like I said above, nobody comes to Boise.

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    1. Listen, friend. I can't track with you on the Mumford thing...but I also have a hard-bent for shunning conventional wisdom so I DO understand that.

      AND...OMW, SCC. I had all the posters. ALL. Great Adventure? Come on. How can anyone not love that entire album! I have to admit, I've fallen away from him a bit in recent years, but he had me through 1994, solid. (See also: Whiteheart, MWS, etc...) And of course - Out of the Grey!

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  28. I don't have anything to say about date routines or concerts, but I will tell you I'll be dying on that hill with you. I usually end up standing (reluctantly and after a token protest of sitting). But I refuse to clap or repeat back on command. I also won't allow myself to be taken in by any emotional manipulation the person on stage is trying. I know what my feelings are and I don't need anybody telling me how I should demonstrate them. So there.

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  29. We are not clappers or arm wavers either - Yes, I am a toe tapper, and sometimes a steering wheel thumb drummer - - dates? We had one yesterday afternoon - grocery shopping at Winco (the PNW's version of SuperSavers). We even discussed amongst the two of us that yes, it DID count as a date! :)

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  30. Love how much you love Cory. I feel that way about my hubby.

    While others do lavish things for date nights or make big plans for a holiday weekend, we pruned a large tree in our backyard, broke the pieces down to manageable size and headed to our local yard recycling drop off center. Two trips = Sexy! Kidding. But he's just good to be around.

    I find that I don't really care what we do. I just enjoy talking to him, hashing and rehashing ideas, watching Game of Thrones (our newest obsession) or Breaking Bad and Newsroom. We go out for brunch a lot- like old people I guess. And get really excited about walking down the street or finding vintage frames.

    In short- nerd alert! But I wouldn't have it any other way.

    Best concert ever: Lilith Fair with my BFF back in '99. I cried when Sarah McLachlan came on stage. LOVE Sheryl Crow. Was badgered by a few angry women and threatened to hit an angry lady with my water bottle if she kept bugging me.

    In all= legendary!

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  31. I was just thinking about this very thing on the way to the thrift store today...my mister is my best friend. I love hanging out with him....doing something or nothing at all. We just fit. :)

    A typical date for us includes food of some kind and usually a thrift store...or bookstore visit...or if we are feeling extra reckless, we go grocery shopping....cause it's always more pleasant with no littles in tow. :)

    Must see Mumford! They are my favorite...the end. :)

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  32. My husband and I are just getting into a dating "routine". We have a four-year-old and a two-year-old and have been terrible at getting out on dates. We're kind of home-bodies and we don't get much satisfaction out of dropping a lot of money on an over-priced not-so-great meal. Still, we know it's good for us so we are making it more of a priority. Thankfully we have grandparents close by to help with the babysitting. Some of my favorite dates of ours have been going to the most low-key places, but just spending time together is great. I would love a date reading on a blanket at a park and a NAP...are you kidding...heavenly!

    I love Phillips,Craig, and Dean too and I don't care who knows it! So funny that you are anti-audience participation! "Nope"...hahaha!

    I don't go to many concerts, but my favorites were Jewel and No Doubt. Partly because I really like them, but also for the circumstances surrounding the concerts. When my husband and I were dating and he surprised me with a Jewel concert...my first one. What guy wants to go to a Jewel concert? It was so thoughtful. I have loved No Doubt since high school so getting to go to their concert with my best high school friend was great. Plus, my firstborn was only a few months old so it was my first time being away for very long and it was GREAT!

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  34. Well apparently our friend is a nice guy because he did not tell us why he was let go, but Google did. He was respectful of Seth even while disapproving of him. Don't go see Avetts if their personal integrity matters to you. Seth was not faithful to his wife. Boo.

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    1. So Seth is a human and a sinner?
      Reminds me of myself.

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  35. Date routine: eat, Wal-Mart. LAME-O.
    Best concert: Gentlemen of the Road in Troy this weekend. I went specifically for Old Crow Medicine Show but fell in love with Bear’s Den and a little more in love with Mumford and Sons (already loved them).
    HIGHLY recommend!

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  36. Mumford!! Saw them for the first time(I most certainly plan to see them again) in February. SO. GOOD. Amazing live!(duh) Save up your money and DO IT! :)

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    1. I'm TOTALLY voting Mumford over Avett. :/
      Cory and I may end up at 2 separate concerts. haha

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  37. We'be been known to call a trip to the grocery store a date. LOL!! And I'm a late eighties early 90's Michael W. Smith girl myself. His concerts are really great! I do like some Phillips, Craig & Dean too. Loved reading this and enjoy all your posts so much!

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  38. "I will not stand, clap, or repeat things back on command. Won't do it. That's the hill I've chosen to die on." Yes, yes, yes! Me, too.

    PC&D..."Shine on Us" is my favorite. We had it at our wedding 13 years ago.

    We are really cool!

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  39. I had to read that line to my husband and we were both cracking up.... "I will not stand, clap or repeat things back..." Too funny, totally me too!!

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  40. I have been reading your blog for months...maybe even a year. I found it while searching for blogs about adoption. We recently adopted. Anyhoo...I too am a lover of Phillips, Craig, and Dean. In fact, Shawn Craig is my pastor and former boss. Do you know Shawn too? Small world!

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  41. oh my gosh. i'm gonna read this to andy. he'll die from laughter.

    we date every week. sometimes it's bfast. sometimes it's lunch. sometimes it's dinner...but it happens every single week.
    sometimes we lay on north campus at UGA cause it's free and it takes us back to when we fell in love 20 years ago here.
    sometimes, we go to a bookstore and read for free. that's always a favorite.

    praise GOD in HEAVEN we have a 13 year old that can stay with our kids FOR FREE. we love free. are you getting that picture?

    dates bring us back to our sanity, too.

    i just had lunch with my man two days ago, and i can't wait to date him again this weekend.

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  42. oh my gosh.
    i love that you've renamed PG&D.
    and that you've compared them to REO Speedwagon. I LOVE REO Speedwagon.

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