Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Why I'm Loyal to The Bachelor

Today I avoided Facebook like the plague and it had nothing to do with Lent. I got a text from my friend Heather and didn't open it for hours because I was afraid it was a spoiler. (Sorry, Heather!) Honest to goodness, I was slightly terrified to go to the network website and watch what I missed last night because I had a feeling "she" would be splashed all over the place. So I went to Hulu, instead. (Love you forever, Hulu.)

I love the Bachelor franchise. I love every minute of every episode. (Except for the minutes when there's kissing because that's just extremely uncomfortable and I think you all agree.) Fate works against me in the form of a defunct TV antenna and I have to watch it the day after it airs, but I always watch it.

I love Chris Harrison and I love that he can say the same exact lines every. single. season with a straight face. I love the dresses and the helicopters and at least some of the drama. I love it when a girl lights the room and I watch through my hands when she cries her eyes out in the limo.

If this sounds like a confession, it is one.

It's so popular to denounce The Bachelor as the irrefutable source of all that is regrettable about modern society. It's fake. It's staged. Everyone is there for the wrong reasons. The guys are all cads. The girls all want their own cable talk shows. I get it. We want to believe that our own stories are the gold standard and everything different is a sham. The way we did things was best, even though come on, we did plenty wrong, right?

All I know is, I believe in love.

All day long, every dang time.

I believe it almost never happens on a reality show, but I also believe that it can. 

I believe that much of the show is staged, but I believe you can't manufacture the spark that lights up the eyes of the falling-in-love.

I believe in your love story and in Kelly Ripa's and yes, I believe in the great love of Jennifer Lopez, whoever he may be.

I believe love can find us in Psych 101 or at the mall or online or in front of a camera crew.

Why not?

I dare to believe that the final final rose means something. I choose possibility over cynicism.

True, they usually don't last and they sure don't last long.
I'm always sort of sad.
Even with Jake and Vienna, I'm sorry to say.

But while they're there, I'm rooting for them to move away, pull the plug and do what the rest of us do - struggle and laugh and kiss through the fun and boring and hard parts of life. It's totally worth trying.

So today I had 90 minutes while Silas was in school and I watched the finale while I washed dishes, cleaned my kitchen and bathroom and folded laundry. It made me inexplicably happy. I caught myself smiling at the screen.

Haters, go on ahead and hate, but this season there was some icing on the cake and it went like this, "I stayed in a constant state of prayer.... I was begging God for direction.... God always speaks in due time... I knew that you were the one God had for me."

I mean, ABC? I'm way impressed. Thank you for not editing all of that out and I'm totally curious about what you did edit out, because you left in the part where his teary-eyed dad told the girl, "We have been praying since the day he was born for his future wife" and that's something big.

Call me naive or unholy, but I plan to keep watching and I don't care who knows it.

I'm the opposite of trending.
The antonym of cool.
The gig is up.

ps - I don't like coffee, beer, or sushi. This seemed like the appropriate time and place to share.


  1. Sean thinks you're looney. I like the swoon and the idealism you represent. Carry the torch girl. We need it! I still like Ryan and Trista. They're still together, right?? Cheers to you (with our near beer, of course).

    1. The current Bach is named Sean. ;)

      And tell him I think he's loonier.

  2. This made me smile. I watched the bachelor a lot in college (even met the bachelor Aaron B. at his restaurant here in town and screamed like a giddy school girl w/ my friends afterwards.) Haven't watched it much the last few years, but I get the wanting to believe in love. in the happily ever after - and all the hard stuff that happens as part of the happily ever after.

    And I don't like beer or sushi either. But I do love coffee. The fru-fru machiato w/ caramel kind best of all.

  3. This is the first season I watched The Bachelor and I really liked it!

    I also hate beer, coffee, and sushi! You're not alone! LOL.

  4. You are a DORK! And you don't like coffee!? How are we even friends?!? And by friends I mean FRIENDS!?
    Confession: one of my bffs loves the bachelor And the kardasgians AN D she hasn't seen downton abbey. And autocorrect changed that last famous family and im not gonna fix it. The end

  5. i was thinking about how i love you, even though you watch that show. THEN.
    i mean, you don't like coffee?! then. things looked back up, because beer is meh, and sushi is whack.

    p.s. i believe in love too.
    p.p.s. the real trouble is, every time i stop over here, i want salsa. it's 1 am.

  6. AHHH!! Can I adore you anymore?! I too had to get up first thing this morning and watch it on Hulu because we don't even have tv. And I too avoided blogs and twitter and the whole shabang because I didn't want it spoiled.

    And ps I don't like coffee, don't drink, and refuse to try sushi. it's like we are soul mates or something.

    Ok. I need to stop typing because I'm sure it's going to wake the baby. :)


  7. Well, I found love in the third grade, so I suppose anything is possible;) Let me rephrase that, I MET my love in the third grade. It took him many years and many a mixed tape to win my heart.
    It's nice to know I'm not the only one who hates coffee, it does make one feel like a pariah when asking for a tea at Starbucks. I always have to repeat my order twice:)

  8. I'm giggling at your use of "cad".


    Coffee is one of my great loves- have you ever tried an amazing latte with caramel? A mint condition from caribou?

    I've never been cool. I was old when young and now at 41... Young while older?

    I've never watched the show, but my BFF loves it. I'm all for love.

    And cake.

  9. I'm one of the Bachelor haters. It just made me so uncomfortable with all the kissing and closed bedroom doors, so I dropped it like a hot potato the first time I tried to watch. From what I've read about this season, Sean brought it to the comfortable level. (Well, except for the kissing, I guess.) Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for admitting you like it. You're being real and that's why I love reading what you have to say. That's why I love your heart even though I've never met you. You're real.

  10. Not knowing the name of even the bachelor, I confess that I tuned in only the other night o see how true love played out. I then proceeded to google, read all the celebrity websites, and catch up on the past season. And I was astounded at the overt nature of his faith and was similarly impressed with ABC... I'm sure it helps that numbers are up for the show, so much so that they have him (in case you didn't know) on Dancing With the Stars this upcoming season!

    We are all rooting for it: crazy, stupid, love. (Which I stayed up until 1 AM watching last night, just to see Ryan Gosling take his shirt off and have Emma Stone call him photoshopped.)

  11. ooooo, the Bach.
    i'm a total fan as well...
    even run a Bachelor Bracket with my girlfriends,
    and send a weekly update :)

    xo - heather

    This Life Is Yours Blog

    p.s. i however also love beer, sushi, and coffee, in case you were wondering.

  12. I don't like the show at all after watching it once and feeling totally uncomfortable.

  13. I didn't see it. I love that her Daddy said that. Oh, I love that.
    How wonderful. How powerful. How big. I hope God does bless their love.
    Just like you, I am a sucker for the spark. I am ever watching for the sparks in life.

    Great post : ).

  14. I read you all the time, love your blog and your faith and your awesome decorating style. Hate the bachelor. I watched it once and could only cringe at all those girls trying to outhot each other. In a real dating situation I can't imagine putting up with your guy "trying out" other girls in kissing and behind closed bedroom doors. As the mother of daughters that is the last place or way I would want them to find love.
    But I'm old fashioned that way. Don't take this wrong, I'm not hating on you or your love of the show. I drink coffee (I've already had 2 cups), hate beer and am not into sushi either:>)

  15. i'm really not a fan, but i love that you are. it's funny :) i'm just not a huge tv person. but when i have watched the bach, i feel like i'm gonna have an anxiety attack. soooo stressful! i feel so bad for those girls that get the big REJECTION!

  16. we like the bachelor too. i think my honey more than me. how weird is that? they always pick the opposite of who we want for them. it drives us crazy...yet we watch year after scripted year... we believe in love too.

  17. been watching since the very first season and feel exactly the same way! loved the final episode but I felt so bad for #2. i thought he was going to pick her!

  18. ...this is why i'm loyal to YOU!! well, that and a lot of other things.
    p.s. i let max stay up and watch the finale with me. he was invested and totally riveted. and i'm a terrible mother.


  19. and please know that I, too, am confessing.
    I watch every season, and I will continue to, no matter who thinks it's lame.

    sean is my favorite bachelor ever....and I'm not afraid to say I'm totally praying for him and catherine.

    the end.

  20. I.JUST.LOVE.YOU!!!!
    Have since I started reading this blog -and today reinforced the feeling:)!! Thanks for sharing - you are too funny!

  21. I don't watch much TV but I DO read blogs...and one of them belongs to the Bachelor's sister, Shay. She seems like the real deal! She loves the Lord, her family, her brother and has the cutest kiddos (besides mine...and yours!) Check out her blog at shullfamily.blogspot.com.

  22. I've only seen that show a couple times and it's not my favorite, but we have faithfully watched Survivor for every single season and still going strong!

    I don't like coffee, beer or sushi, either!

  23. I will admit it. Over here. :-) I love the Bachelor. My husband and I watch it together, I know! Weird maybe. But we have fun watching the series, we look forward to it Monday nights. This season though was especially amazing, I agree! I am so happy they left the Christian faith shine through. :-)

  24. and yet more reasons why i love you. i don't care much for coffee either, while i love the smell. i don't like beer & sushi, i've never been brave enough to try....raw fish *shudder* sounds so disgusting. the opposite of trending, i can go for that. i liked those metal (wall) stars for all of 5 minutes before i started seeing them everywhere.

    1. must clarify here. hot coffee i struggle with. cold coffee. cold coffee i love. there, i feel better. wouldn't wanna tell a fib.

  25. Cute post. but oh gosh. I watched it for the first time this season, with my 14 year old daughter. I will admit its addicting. I don't think it's very healthy. you will likely agree when you are watching it with Ruby. Especially when she tells you about her friends and their boyfriends. And they're all like 12. But hey I love coffee so what do I know?!

    xo ellie

  26. ah haaa - this is an adorable post. I love it too. My daughter and I (she's 16) were laying on her bed and screaming when he didn't pick Lindsay - lol. Can't wait for it to start again. You are too stinking cute!!!

  27. Well here I am, coming out of the closet as a long-time lurking-non-commenter and huge fan of your blog, over THIS post, on the Bachelor. Mostly just to high-five you and say YES, sista! I am so hooked. I was beaming watching the finale. And if you'd walked into my living room when Sean's dad was telling the girls that he'd been praying for Sean's wife or that he'd be their biggest cheerleader? I would've swiftly wiped away a stray tear and pretended not to be affected. I totally wanted to bring Sean's dad home, sit him on my couch and soak up every word he says.

    But we really need to talk about the sushi thing. I need to know that you've given it a proper chance.

    Kelly @ View Along the Way

  28. I am a romantic, too. My hubby said my face was all sappy and glowy while I watched Catherine.She was so stinkin' cute in her sincerity and shock.
    Sean had tears in his eyes watching the proposal with her.
    Swoon. IF it is scripted (I know, I know.. whateves') that part was perfectly sweet.
    Your secret is safe with me, and my hubby says it is fake and he hates it, BUT if he goes to get a snack or something, he MAKES ME rewind when he gets back!

  29. I hate beer and sushi, too. I think we'd be great real life friends.

  30. I love this post. I could have written it myself (if I was a writer, which I am not) as I feel the same way.

    Have you ever checked out www.ihategreenbeans.com? If not, you must go to her website and read her bachelor recaps - she's been recapping them for years and is HILARIOUS. And she doesn't allow spoilers either (she's not like Reality Steve cause she's just funny and recaps each episode). Sometimes I feel like I watch the show just so I can read her recaps and laugh my face off. :)

  31. I...100% agree:)
    i balled my eyes out when the dad spoke to both of the girls...coming from a fatherless daughter..humanly speaking of course..when he told katherine he would be her biggest supporter..i lost it
    and i hate beer sushi but i love one cup of coffee. every morning

  32. I, too, was smiling at the screen as I watched the finale and loving the 'prayer' and 'God' talk...plus I also hate coffee, beer and sushi ~ are we sisters? (more likely, I'm you MUCH older aunt)

  33. I don't know anything about the bachelor but you have me at choosing possibility over cynicism! To clarify: I do know of the bachelor (and I've even seen it) but in a very clueless way. I just adore you. You are very adoring-able.