Thursday, August 9, 2012

Fish Frying



This post is headlined by the fabulous Ruby River, who begins kindergarten tomorrow - tomorrow! - and is sure to blow the whole school away. To prepare, we got her hair trimmed (a big event) and bought her a pair of knock-off Toms shoes called Bobs. I don't know much about this Bob guy, but he gets zero points for originality.

Is this the fanciest salon you've ever seen? It's more of a beauty parlor, really. I wish I could tell you the beautician's name was Madge and she had lipstick on her teeth, but tweren't meant to be.


 Yesterday afternoon, I suffered a curtain  breakdown of catastrophic proportions. I was overcome with anxiety that the "tapestry" curtains wouldn't be wide enough for the big front windows. Then I worried that they were too colorful. Then I was sure that they were altogether weird. They weren't for me. They'd argue with the wall paper. They'd be kiss ups to the chair.

Herringbone Curtain

I found these and my confusion swelled from inconvenient to insurmountable.

I sent an SOS text to my friend, who responded with back-to-back responses, "Blah. Boring!!!" "Would look like you chickened out." "Nope. No way. Bad idea!"

So I just argued harder and with more fervor.

Truth is? I'm a big hot mess. I'm like Calvin, who just shrieked himself to sleep over a broken ink pen that I dared to throw away when what he's really worried about is his first day at a new school.

We went to a kindergarten orientation then buzzed past New House, wherein I decided that they will be fine, and only partly because they are already paid for and machine washed.

Then I showed up at the above-mentioned friend's house at 9 pm with the curtains, the picture of the curtains held wonky to the window, some other random fabric swatches, the wallpaper and a piece of fine art.

The ladies officially talked me off the ledge and all is well again. For now. We celebrated with cobbler and Round II of skirt-sewing.

Side note: They finally believe me when I say I'm terrified of sewing. Also, cutting. And I can't do math in my head. And patterns give me hives. So while they sewed my skirt, I snapped their beans and we all pretended like it made perfect sense. That, my dears, is friendship.

(This is the fine artwork. I have big plans for it. Please ignore the magazines, just there to keep the edges from rolling.)
 
We kicked off our last day of summer vacation at Rise 'N Roll bakery. My doughnut was so sweet that I could only eat half. I don't even know myself anymore. All of a sudden, I'm giving perfectly good doughnut halves away, calling emergency curtain forums when I have bigger fish to fry and singing Billy Idol songs in the middle of the afternoon.

Hey, little sister, shot-gun.

Here's something else that may definitely not interest you: Every month or so I get this song in my mind, "If you get caught between the moon and New York City, the best that you can do is fall in love." I haven't heard it in years and years. It always puts me in a good mood when it pops in for a visit.

I know it's crazy. But it's true.

Speaking of frying fish, I fried some up tonight. Cory gave it 5/5 stars. Calvin said, "If this was the Olympics, I'd give you the gold medal!" But he's totally a corrupt judge because he didn't even try the mango salsa or the chipotle cream.

And this? Dinner last night.

Dear Summer,
Please don't ever leave me.
Love,
FPFG

Dear Bacon,
I'm sorry that I never make you out of fear that you'll stink up the house for the rest of the week. Because honestly? The house still smells faintly of bacon and I find it immensely comforting.
Love,
FPFG

And now, another word on bad words. I've enjoyed the spirited debate on this post. I'm cool with a little debate, people. I'm fascinated by the things that connect and divide us. It's healthy and worthwhile, when it's done in love.

It seems the debate took a turn from my intended purpose, and I'm okay with that. But as a reminder, my point was that Christians shouldn't be offended by the language of non-believers. Period. It's not our business. I spent most of Tuesday with someone who said a handful of "bad" words throughout the day. Her saying those words was the last thing on my mind. I don't want her to believe that her words are "bad". I want her to believe that she's worthy of every good thing. I want her to believe that she  was created in beauty and with purpose. I want her to believe that she can go to Jesus, right this very minute, without a split-second of sprucing up.

When we are so bothered by "foul" language that we can't go there or there or there, we're in a big heap of trouble, because at that point, we're putting legalism ahead of love. 

As for what Christians should/shouldn't say, my opinions are numerous. We could talk semantics and hermeneutics and cultural constructs until we're all well past blue, and we might still disagree. As for me, I know when I have said something in sin. I know when I've been wrong. That - the personal condition of my heart - is where my finger should point. I should keep a tight reign on my tongue. I shouldn't slander or gossip or lie. I shouldn't tell dirty jokes or revel in the things that are clearly sinful. I shouldn't speak in a way that hurts another. I should absolutely worry about being legalistic. And I should interrogate the condition of my heart on a daily basis, constantly looking to Him to sweep me to the shore of His truth and away from the things that aren't of Him.

To that end, I stumbled on this interesting take.

And while we're already here getting down to some business, there's this article, "Would Jesus Bake a Cake for a Gay Wedding?"

(One of my favorite lines: "There is no sliding scale of sins and if you’re going to withhold baking a cake for a gay man, you better shut down the whole dang bakery because no one is really worthy of your red velvet!") (#nocakeforyou!)

So you know what I love today? I love hearts that want to think things through a little. I love my baby boy, who has morphed into the wiriest, sneakiest, most affection little dude on the map. He exasperates me daily and makes me question my abilities by the hour, but he's so cuddly and rad. I love my Calvin, who spent part of this rainy day planting some flowers for me in my little Igloo water cooler. I love my Ruby girl, who embraces change with the spirit of a New World explorer. I love my husband, who is just as fed up with the current pace of our lives as I am. I love that date night can happen at 9:15, after the kids are in bed and the dishes are done, with a Red Box and a bowl of cereal. I love night air that's certifiably sweat-pants-worthy.

I love this life, this world. I love you, even if we don't always agree on every little thing.

48 comments:

  1. Did you ever read a blog post or two or five and say "we would totally be BFF's?"
    I think that when I read your posts, these posts about what your life as a Jesus Freak, Lost Lover, wine sipping, cuss reading gal is like.
    And I wish we were at least in the same state.
    boo
    we aren't.
    P~

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  2. Ah this post made me happy :-) love it.

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  3. I think our menus are the same. We had corn on the cob last night...BLT's tonight...tomatoes on buttered toast for the last three nights... Why must I associate summer with food all the time? Because it's just that good. Kind of like one bite of a Rise N Roll donut. More than that, it's just wrong. But one bite? Amazing. But it still makes me wanna pack toothbrushes for right after.
    And that picture of Silas? His eyes kinda sugar crazed? And one lone blue sprinkle on his lip? That's priceless.
    Welcome to the city of Goshen, by the way. It's comin!

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    1. A healthy-eating friend of mine calls them "Rise 'N Roll to the Grave" doughnuts. :)

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  4. Fabulous. Every single word.
    And now I am desperately regretting having never made my daughters BLTs. I feel I have failed them and summer will not be complete until I've made this dinner. (And cook the bacon in the oven- no mess, and tastes amazing!(I just discovered this tip and love to share!)

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    1. What you can't see is that this is actually a BLAT. Avocado, baby! Oh holy moly, it was SO good.

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    2. We do BLATs too! They're so, so yummy!

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  5. "I love night air that's certifiably sweat-pants-worthy."

    As I sit here, a beautiful breeze is coming through the windows, and I am shivering. Actually, my fingers are freezing. Could also be the run in the rain "Nancy" had us take. Either way, this weather is bliss. I am in love. It can stick around awhile.

    Also, I think the entire Martin clan is pretty rad.

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  6. The tail end of this post is sooooooo darn refreshing.

    Happy first day of kindergarten Ruby River- you'll be great!

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  7. I love that you and your friends swapped sewing for snapping beans. Good friends are good that way. ; ) A friend and I are discussing swapping a morning of cleaning her house for her cooking a couple dinners for us. (she is a fabulous cook and although I don't like cleaning, I like a clean house).

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    1. Y'all are brilliant! I'd gladly swap some food for a squeaky clean house.

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  8. I wanted to comment on the cussing post. But debate makes me hide under the covers.

    You are the writing Queen in my book. Your words make me tremble sometimes. I think I started writing again all because of you. I had a icky college professor that caused me to hang up my own writing hat. And in the last few months I've been testing it out. Just a post here & there - sprinkled in the home decor so that nobody really notices. I thought you should know that you have that kind of power. :)

    I just learned to sew this summer. I took lessons and found I really liked it. Except I need the teacher to live in my house. Because when I'm by myself it gets all mixed up in my head.

    We have an almost Kindergartner. Lacey is doing transitional kindergarten this year. She has a close to the cutoff birthday. We just want her to come out of her shell at least a teeny tiny bit before she hits the big-time.
    My Mama heart knew she wasn't ready. Hopefully this year will help. But Ruby will rock it for sure!

    Tomorrow might be a BLT (or BLAT) day. Because I'm about to go to bed thinking about it.

    I read a lot but I don't comment as often as I should.

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    1. Thanks, Erin! And I love hearing from you and knowing that I have had the privilege of meeting you in person!

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  9. I cannot wait to see the all your wonderful curtains and fine art together in your new house. I think it's going to be magazine-worthy!

    Thanks for your final word on the cussing situation. And that's all I'm going to say on that. You already know the rest.

    Happy First Day of School to Calvin & Ruby! You guys will do great!

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  10. There are so many things to comment on! The brilliant curtains. The throwing out of a broken ink pen! Get a hold of yourself sister : )
    The sewing issues.
    The dinner.
    OH MY GOSH that dinner looks good.
    I am afraid to read the swearing post...
    since I say freaking and bloody all the time.
    I don't know where the bloody came from.
    I think I am pretending I am British this summer.
    A fat British girl : )
    Wishing the babies all the best at their school. I hope their year is beyond fantastic!

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  11. Love you back, Salsa queen. Hope your Ruby girl keeps her spirit, and you can feel settled about the curtains :)

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  12. You had me at sweat pants....waiting for that weather here... :)

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  13. "I spent most of Tuesday with someone who said a handful of "bad" words throughout the day. Her saying those words was the last thing on my mind. I don't want her to believe that her words are "bad". I want her to believe that she's worthy of every good thing. I want her to believe that she was created in beauty and with purpose. I want her to believe that she can go to Jesus, right this very minute, without a split-second of sprucing up."-FPFG
    You nailed it with this quote!

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  14. Your posts always have so much goodness that I don't know where to start. For now, would you mind making me a quick appointment at that hair salon? Love that picture. I'd hang it in my bathroom.

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  15. We are having BLT's tonight.....adding some avocado for myself ! Loving all of the gardens goodness this summer and so sad to see it end. Local beans, corn, peaches, watermelon, tomatoes and fresh basil from a good friend (pesto baby !) Wishing you well on your move and for the kiddos first days at school. We will be there next week with my oldest riding the bus and going to a new school....I am excited for him and all of his new experiences but at the same time wish he was still my little guy that could sit on my lap.....his legs are almost as long as mine now !

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  16. This post made me giggle *although I totally feel your pain*

    Favourite part--"There is no sliding scale of sins and if you’re going to withhold baking a cake for a gay man, you better shut down the whole dang bakery because no one is really worthy of your red velvet!"

    To which I say AMEN!

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  17. Why! Is that a map of Muskegon Harbor? A little piece of Michigan going in your house? ;) The curtains are perfection. It all is! Love all the pops of color against the white walls. Speaking of walls...what am I seeing? Is that wood? Yummalicious! Love the time-capsule hair salon too. Swoony!

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  18. even before you declared your love for me (okay, and all of the rest of everyone, but i just hear the part about me), i was thinking how dearly i love you.

    i do.

    ps go ruby! kindergarten is the Best Thing Out There.

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  19. I do like some controversy in your writings, especially about the "cussing" thing. Just yesterday at work, someone said "I can't hang out with them, they cuss and we just can't be around people like that!" Well, I disagree. I have befriended someone and the lauguage can be very fowl at times, but I have decided that I don't need to talk like that necessarily but she needs me in her life. I am the only bible she has right now and I will keep "planting the seed" in her. We are to love the unloveable. On another note, I am thankful for your girlfriends to "help" sew your skirt, we must see a pic when it makes its debut! FYI, I can clean like a madwoman, please make me some dinner!!!
    xoxo
    heather

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  20. in case you have another panic attack over the curtains, i feel the need to give you my 2-cents. they are PERFECTLY perfect! ser-IOUS-ly! (oh and if you do chicken out, i mean, decide to go a different route, i'll buy them from you :)

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  21. whoa.
    i'm totally going to be chewing on that #nocakeforyou line all day.

    when can i come over for dinner?

    xoxo

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  22. That Siley. You can say whatever you please. Whenever his name is mentioned, or not, he rocks the whole post. He's that good.

    Happy first day to Cal and Rubes.

    xxoo

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  23. I'm laughing over here and need to confess something. When you first posted the tapestry fabric, I fell head over heels in love with it. Went straight to the website and ordered 4 (!) of them for my bedroom. Plan was to make panels for 3 windows and a bedskirt. And I am totally chickening out!! I suddenly froze, thinking my bedroom would like like a 13 year old girl's room (I'm 54). So, yes I get it! You go first, then I'll decide! hehehe and if I stay a chicken, would you like some more of YOUR fabric?! hehehe

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  24. Wow! Just....wow. The article on cussing is an interesting take. I'd like to know his opinion on James 3:10. And I found the article on the gay cake to be spot on. In examining my own heart regarding being like Jesus vs. behaving as expected by our church's culture I have found these same conflicts. I'd bake the cake, attend the wedding, and have them to my house for dinner! Later, I'd probably be shunned by the more "righteous" members of our congregation. This is, however, a chance I'm willing to take! Tina S

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    1. I'm not really the "right" person to ask (i.e. I do not know Biblical Greek) but I have to wonder if the wording of "curse" is something different. Our society/culture has created all of these really specific "curse words", but most are just words. Of course, you can use a "curse" word to actually curse someone - and that would be a problem. I think of cursing as invoking ill on someone, or defaming their character, those kinds of things. I don't necessarily think of someone referring to a "big a** burrito" as cursing. If that makes any sense. But again, I'm not the expert. :)

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  25. Just hopin by!! I loved the vintage hairdryers, lol. Cute idea to celebrte the last day of summer vacation. I think the curtains are interesting you can use accent pieces to bring out the other colors.

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  26. Ruby looked so cute. I just know it made her feel just like the princess she is.

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  27. So..really sad that you couldn't eat the WHOLE donut, cuz I can certainly eat the WHOLE box! Being too sweet never has happened to me!

    But seriously.... AMEN to this....

    "And I should interrogate the condition of my heart on a daily basis, constantly looking to Him to sweep me to the shore of His truth and away from the things that aren't of Him."

    And again I say... love your wisdom for such a young pup!

    Can I have your fish taco recipe?

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  28. I cannot tell you how relieved I am to have read this. Sometimes my friends have surprised me when I stumble into the nitty gritty of their understanding of what it means to be Christian and I am saddened when I am unable to squeeze into their tiny houses. Your house with it's crazy curtains and wonderful art lives big my friend. I see the doors flung open and the windows wide. All of it makes me happy. Although I am concerned about your inability to eat whole donut...

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  29. you make me smile and because of your words....I will get through this day with my 13 year old!

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  30. RUBY girl in kindergarten!!! WoWza your life is getting ready for some change. She's gonna love it. Oh and love those curtains. Bring on the color. Green and orange are my favorite colors!!

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  31. And once again, you rock my world in the best of ways. :-)
    Thank you!
    El

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  32. totally dig the curtains...a fab choice indeed! :) my oldest munchkin started kinder this week too...wow i was so not ready...but so far she's rockin it and your ruby will too. :) happy weekend!

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  33. And I love you too, Shannan! I have been a major lurker for a long time and enjoy your writing tremendously! The pictures and antics of Calvin and Ruby and Siley make me smile every day! Good luck Ruby River and Calvin on their first days! How will you and Silas do on your own?

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  34. The best that you can do IS fall in love! Loving the curtains, the fish tacos & BLT's (you can have my avocado...I know, I know...), and this whole post!

    I loved the links, I read them both from top to bottom. Have I told you that I am not even a little bit modern, liberal, progressive, or even comfortable with change? All this thinking outside the box and questioning all the rules really freaks me out. I'm not old-fashioned, exactly, but I probably identify more with people who choose not to wear make-up or pants than those who are celebrating all the green lights we've been given in this day and age. Wait, women who don't wear pants, you know, that only wear skirts...not people who are pantless...Sheesh.

    Anyhoo. I try really hard not to be judgy because I love Jesus & His body, and want so badly to be part of His mission here. I think though, that sometimes I can feel more gracious toward the un-Christian than toward brothers and sisters who think differently than I do. So words like yours and links like those are helping me through these changes. Helping me to not take harsh stances that count people out. And hopefully no one counts me out either. I know I'm not worthy of the red velvet. Who among us is?

    Blessings, blessings, blessings to you, FPFG!

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  35. I am so glad you are going with the original curtains. Chevron is sooo trendy. You would be sick of it shortly.
    The whole debate kinda hurt my stomach if I am being truthful. Love is where it is at and all the legalistic stuff is what almost always seems to scare off the unbelievers. Too many Christians on a high horse never stop to walk with the people that need them to walk with them.
    Love you Shannie Bannanie. Get that house dude'ed up. I am bringing the Cooper over one of these days for a playdate.

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  36. You're great.... Just had to say it. This post was random and refreshing to me today, so thanks for posting it.

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  37. Girl, thanks for introducing me to Hugh Halter. That post of his was just amazing. I've never heard it said like that before. If only every christian in the world could read it and actually get it. He answers a lot of questions I've had.

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  38. I don't know a lick about decorating, but I love your first pick. Really, I wish I didn't live at the complete opposite end of the state you do so that you could come to my house and rescue me. We've lived here 7 months and there are still pictures leaning against the wall rather than hung , up. My bedroom looks like a college dorm room, complete with t.v. sitting at weird angle on dresser. Oh well. Someday...
    Love the stuff about cussing. My husband and I debate this back on forth all the time. Truthfully, foul language is something I struggle with GREATLY. In my former non-Christian life I could throw down with the most seasoned cursers. So now in my born-again life I have moments when I stumble. Usually its when the hubster and I are having heated argument but there have been three (shameful) times when I've let bad ones fly in front of my babies. Ugh. At any rate, I totally get you. We cannot be so offended by the unlovely in someone's life or language that we refuse to bring the lovely in.

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  39. I love what you wrote. I can't stand legalism esp. if it is in my heart or actions...yes, we need to examine our hearts daily with the Jesus. Thank you for showing Christ' love by stating truth. Thanx for posting the Hugh Halter blog...such a good post by him. A lot to think about and for me, I am about loving ppl for where they are at not where I think they need to be. It isn't up to me to change them...that is Christ' job.

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  40. I'm sick to death that I can't make a BLT for dinner or a BLAT for that matter. I'd be the only one to eat it. Well, I could make them eat it, but one of them would complain the entire time and one would most likely throw it up in his plate right in front of me.

    And, I must have missed the debate that you started. :)

    I'll have to go back and catch up.

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  41. Hey Shannan, I'm catching up on your blog. I hate to bug you now since I know you're moving but could you post a link to where you found those blue and white curtains? They're not as fun as your tapestries but I think they could work well at my place. Thanks! -- JM

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