Sunday, June 3, 2012

The Illegitimate Sons

We had a blazing hot date last night.

First: Korean food al fresco.
Second: Home Depot (for him) TJ Maxx and JoAnn's (for her)

And then: A house party.

Only I'm not supposed to call it a house party. I'm supposed to call it a "house concert". All I'm saying is, old friends + drunken goat cheese + live music = party. But that's just me.

Here I am, with the lovely hostess.

(Excuse the hair, okay? I rushed out the door at 9 in the morning with wet hair, twisted it up on the top of my head, picked out 3 kinds of flooring with 3 kids in tow, met a friend at a flea market, encountered gale force winds, put the hair in a knot, went to lunch, came home and took a nap in bed in my clothes, just like back in college. I had plans to put on proper House Party clothes and fix my hair. Alas, it wasn't in the cards.)
We mingled for a while, then it was show time.

 Raise your hand if you feel sorry for Scott.
(Do I talk too much??)
(Don't answer that.)

This is my friend Tony's head. He was one of my first friends, Freshman year. Hi, Tony. But next time, please bring Jess, thankyouverymuch. No offense.

This is my friend, Lee Miles, lead singer of The Illegitimate Sons. We went to college together about eighteen thousand years ago.

Here's the thing: I'm not a cool music girl. I don't keep up. There's a long list of cool music things I couldn't possibly tell you. But I do know what I love and my tolerance is low for drivel or cliche or bands that "aren't good live". Good music stirs me up on the inside. I'll dive headlong into a bare-naked lyric and forget to breathe for a while. 

I loved the show.

I was wildly impressed, so honored to have a seat. I wanted them to not stop singing.

So we bought the cd.

You can buy one, too. And you should. Not just because it's my old friend, Lee Miles. Buy it because it's raw and pure, melancholy and redemptive. Buy it for the harmonica, for heaven's sake. Buy it because these guys wear it all out. They're the real deal. I promise they'll make you pine for a road trip.You might even twirl your hat on your fingertip then fling it out the window when you go.

In their own words, "The Illegitimate Sons play a brand of Americana, Alt-Country, and Murder Ballads reminiscent of The Band, Johnny Cash, Bob Dylan, Townes Van Zandt and Neil Young."

Don't be scared by the creepy cd cover. Dude, the cover is creepy, like "hide-this-from-Calvin-or-he'll-have-nightmares creepy." (What's up with that, Lee Miles?)

Lee talked a bit about most of the songs. He peeled back a corner of skin and let us peek at the guts. I love locking eyes with the soul of another writer, to sit still with their art. It's always truth, born from a place of vulnerability and maybe even pain. I might understand it differently than it was intended, and that's alright. All that really matters is that it landed in that raw place of my heart for a while, the place that helps me feel my own life more clearly.

Last night was a gift. True, I'm prone to pronounced fits of nostalgia, but it wasn't just that. It wasn't just seeing faces that swept me back to cafeteria food and complicated nicknames. It wasn't just being on a real, live date with my man. It wasn't even closing the night down with a rowdy rendition of I Saw the Light alongside people like me, who have clawed blind through some darkness to grab hold of the light.

It was all the pieces. Together.

So thank you, Lee Miles.

And thank you, Sarah. You throw a mean party.

*All photos courtesy of my hot date.


  1. I want to know more about this "Tony" you talk of. Only showing the back of his head makes him seem so mysterious. :)

  2. Sounds fabulous!!

    You don't know what bad hair is!

    My b/f/f tried the Pinterest "overnight sock bun" on me last weekend.

    I followed the rules. Wore it til morning. On her, it looked BEAUTIFUL. I woke up with slightly wet hair that looked frizzy and just..wrong on so many levels.

    No. No photographic proof. I refused.

    Love the pic of your friend with his eyes closed. I highly DOUBT they were closed because of you chatting.

    Like No Way.



  3. What is drunken goat cheese? At first I thought that was the name of the band. :)

  4. I know these people. Love it all.

  5. aw I love this, especially the part about "I love locking eyes with the soul of another writer, to sit still with their art. It's always truth, born from a place of vulnerability and maybe even pain."

  6. actually, i'm jealous of scott. i want to be standing there in his place. i still like your hair, for reals.

  7. Haha, Drunken Goat Cheese WOULD make a great band name! I am going to Google Murder Ballads. Never heard of it.

  8. the picture of your friend scott with his eyes closed while talking to you is beyond hilarious, and the cd cover is ridiculously creepy, but I bet it's dang good music.

  9. When I start a band I'm totally inviting you to my first live concert. You know how to sell it, girl!

    You also had me truth being born from a place of vulnerability and maybe even pain. And I am also majorly "prone to pronounced fits of nostagia"!

    I love raw heartfelt live music!

    I miss seeing you! Maybe next Sunday? Or at least the next?

    xo jamie

  10. mahler has that very same look on his face when talking to me. and all this time i thought he was mulling over the profundity of my conversation.

  11. you actually make me wanna order a cd of a band i know nothing about, you are good mama. and yes, poor scott. i think that's the glazed-over look my husband gives me a lot. i'm sure it is. nothing better than live music, sounds like the perfect night!

  12. Please do share source of most awesome necklace you are wearing! :)

  13. How fun!

    I'm hosting a blender giveaway... would love to have you enter :-)

  14. You are adorable....looks like a fabby, fancy free time!

  15. If they do another CD I'd love a chance to design the cover! I promise no creepness :)

  16. Hey Farmgirl! I gave you a little shout out on my blog today. Thanks again for the towel. This weekend I went to get it framed at Hobby Lobby. It was going to be $100. Are you kidding?! Do I decided to paint a dowel rod Aqua and hang it that way. That only cost 59 cents-LOL!

  17. It looks like you had a brilliant time!