Saturday, April 16, 2011

I Can Be Kind Of Bossy


Adoption is the most mind-bending, beautiful, rock-my-socks-off surprise. It's hard and it's easy. It has taken everything I once knew for sure and sent it skidding across the kitchen floor like a wayward toy top.

Right around the time that we were realizing the age-old discussion of "Will our kids have your eyes and my ears?" might be altogether pointless, my mom told me something that I will never forget. "God knows exactly what your family picture looks like."

I cannot tell you the peace that brought me. He already knew. It was already planned, from the beginning of time. It wasn't because we had failed somehow or because something was wrong with us. It wasn't because we were extra-brave or good-hearted. It was just the plan. It had always been The Plan.

From that day on, I began daydreaming about eyes with the slope of an almond and hair that could spring up to half its length. We didn't know the details and we didn't care, but to cover all of our bases, we pictured a little bit of everything.

Little by little, God reveals to us our family picture.

Little by little, God reaches down to a child who appears to be an orphan.

He wraps that baby up and carries him across the ocean and her across the river and then, the baby is HOME, with the family it was always meant to have.

Last weekend, talking to J, Calvin said, "I remember looking out of the airplane window and everything looked different. I didn't recognize anything. And I knew my life was about to change forever."

J scrunched his eyebrows together and asked, "Does he really remember that? How old was he?"

Well, he was not quite 5 months old and no, I don't think he really remembers any of it. Not really. But you know? His story is different than mine and maybe God put a really valuable memory in his little heart and maybe he knows more than we think he does. Maybe he does remember the moment he came Home.

I almost cried when he said it. I had never heard him say it before and I have never described it to him in exactly that way. He was speaking from his old-soul heart. His words were cooked-down truth.

So many of you have told me that adoption is on your heart. Well, I'm here to say that it's quite possible that your family picture looks different than you think it does. And there may be a child somewhere who looks like an orphan right now, but really isn't. The outcome depends on your willingness to step out of the life you know right now and embrace the beauty of so much more.

Dn't let fear or indecision hold you back. Match the courage of that precious boy or girl. Find their faith and hope and meet them there.

In the meantime, I'm asking for your help.

Farleys
This is Danielle and her family.

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They are working to bring their boy home.

Remember: He is already theirs, and they are already his.

His name is Sergey and right now, he lives in an orphanage in Eastern Europe.

He has Down Syndrome.

He needs his Mama and Daddy.

Right now, they are standing on the tallest ladder, reaching up to grab hold of faith and provision because that is The Plan for them.

Click here to donate $10 (or more!)

There are loads of amazing prizes being given away as part of this Dream Big fundraiser, but you and I both know that the prizes don't even matter in comparison to being a part of God's Big, Crazy, Mind-Bending, Grace-Filled Plan.

Be a part of something Big today.

And keep thinking and praying about that picture hanging on your own wall. Because maybe there's room for one more in there. Maybe it's not as complete as you thought it was.