Friday, January 14, 2011

Have You Ever Had a Day Like This?


Have you ever had a day where you were prone to mean looks and gloomy attitudes and flat-down exhaustion?

You just wanted to crawl in a cave...
(Or a craft cabinet. Same diff.)

Where there's only room for you...

Say farewell to your peeps...
(just for an hour or five!)

And shut.

The.


Door?

Well, that day was yesterday for me. And, incidentally, it was the young man pictured directly above that plum did me in.

Cory had the nerve to work late Mon. through Thurs.

Siley was at his Wiliest.

Calvin was bossing.

Ruby was crying.

Silas was attempting to stick sharp metal objects into electrical outlets and throwing food on the floor. And calling all of us "Bolly Bobo" whenever we looked at him wrong. (We have reason to believe that this may mean something quite alarming in Korean, given his tone and general demeanor whilst saying it.)

I knew I was a wee bit frazzled.

Then my sister-in-law called to say that she was taking my kids - ALL of them - for the day today.

And I burst into tears.

And then I really knew I was frazzled. Like, fo rills.

That is the way I want to love. Selflessly and right when I notice the need.

My sanity feels mostly restored tonight. All because of 6 lazy hours.

TGIF, Friends.

57 comments:

  1. Bless your heart! Thank the good Lord for the kindness of others. He knew you needed a break.

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  2. Wow. Yes, I want to be that person, too. How lucky you are to have her in your life! (I'm pretty sure you deserve it, even if you're a bolly bobo.) :-)

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  3. I have had those days more often than not lately. I need to teach myself to accept help - I'm a bit of a control freak. I know that even a trip to one of my favourite stores for an hour is healing so I can only imagine what a gift your SIL gave you.

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  4. Gotta love the ladies in your life that just KNOW when you need a little time to yourself and whisk your darlings away! I have a wonderful friend that's like a sister and we would do this for each other when our babes were younger. Someone that knows that tone of voice on the phone that says, I'm about to lose it! How awesome that you have one of those too!

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  5. AHHH!! I want to know your sis -in -law, too.

    I'm next...

    yes! I've had those (very) days myself this week.

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  6. That was my day today... grumps and fights. I was glad to kiss good-bye and hit the road when Mom showed up. At least we grandmas get to go home!! TGIF fo.sure.

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  7. What a loverly sister in law!!! If I was your neighbor, I'd do the same! Glad you're sane again, Shannan!
    xoxo
    Joni

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  8. LUCK-EE... wish I had a hero nearby to save me from today. Hubby was supposed to be home at 5:30, then 6:30, then 8:00, now it's 8:25... At least one is in bed at this point... now I have to try and keep my head together in this house that is UPSIDE DOWN inside...

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  9. Ok, he is my weird comment of the day. Just for you.

    When I was little my Dad would make me watch reruns of the Andy Griffith Show. Remember that one? Every episode had some hidden moral message delivered all slick and ninja-like, disguised by the cuteness of Opie and ridiculousness of Barney and the gang?

    Tonight you, my friend are my personal "Andy Griffith". I have learned a lesson I will tuck in my pocket and pull out when everyone leasts suspects it.

    That some days my sister would love it more than life itself if I would swoop in and take her 3 little kiddos off her hands for the day so she can just...be.

    Happy Weekend.

    Mary

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  10. Yes, I get it. My son threw up this afternoon, 5 minutes before my husband was leaving on an overnight trip. Bah! I had planned a fun supper outing to Subway, etc., all down the drain . . .

    That is so awesome your SIL bailed you out. I wish I lived closer to my sister--we're a thousand miles apart, but I know we would do that for each other.

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  11. your kids are too cute, even when they're cranky.
    I'm glad you got some important 'lazy' time.
    Hope this weekend is lovely!

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  12. So, I guess this means we should expect these kinds of days around these parts soon too?
    Off to call my MIL to check her schedule...for the next 18 years. :-)

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  13. Oh yes I have had those days......several of them recently as a matter of fact. Your SIL is a blessing.

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  14. Yes, I've had a few of those days...and this week was no exception! What a wonderful SIL for caring for all three...everyone needs someone in their life just like that!

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  15. Found you via my bosom friend Jerusalem, and as if there was a need to doubt her taste, I might be in love with you already. If I were a lesbian. Which I'm not. But you know what I mean :)

    You are lucky woman to have someone in your life who will step in where it's needed most. I want to feel whole enough with myself to be able to give to others in that way.

    Hugs -

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  16. YES! I had a wiley, bossy, cryer all wrapped in one little bundle today. Boy could I have used a craft cabinet, or better yet, a SIL! --- fo rills. BUT, like you said... I want to love like that, too! The hands and feet of Jesus.

    Christi

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  17. It is amazing how God knows what we need right when we need it. I love to see Him in the faces of my friends and family.

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  18. I have had a week like that! I want to get under the bed and suck my thumb all alone! Glad you had some time to yourself..we sure need that for our sanity sometimes.

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  19. Yes ... yes, I have. And God bless your sister for stepping in just when you needed her. Happy weekend!

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  20. Um, like every other day.

    I rountinely wish someone would put me in timeout for 29 minutes. Of course, I wouldn't stay seated and then need to be sent to my bed. I never considered hiding in the craft cabinet.

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  21. How sweet is that! (Silas and I are wearing the same socks!)

    Your sister-in-law was nifty for doing that...I must say!

    Happy Weekend!

    : )

    Julie M.

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  22. God bless sister-in-laws! Mine has been especially helpful in recent weeks with my two little ones while husband works late.

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  23. You must have the bestest sister in law on the planet! Hope you enjoyed those 6 hours to the fullest.

    ~Chris

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  24. Awww...I think you DO love like that. And what a SWEET SIL you have.

    TGIF, indeed sister.

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  25. Perfect! I'm so glad you found someone to do the swap with! We've been having a week too. I hear rumblings of it from a lot of my mama friends. Something's in the air!
    Enjoy your long-weekend!

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  26. Glad you got a break! That little one of your may be frazzling, but he sure is a cutie. Enjoy your weekend. :-)
    -FringeGirl

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  27. yaay for your sweet sis in law and for your lazy day alone!!

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  28. i love those pics. that kissy face expression is making me weak in the knees. i'm so glad you were able to refill your tank!! and p.s. you have THE best s-i-l! what a dear!!

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  29. I love your Martin family so much, they are the best! I bet she called it a kinner frolic!!I can't wait to find out what bally bobo means too....well, maybe not.

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  30. I am sorry you had such a frazzly kind of day Shanny but so happy that you have people around you to help and support you. That new schedule of CMB's must be a rough adjustment. I feel for you. If it cheers you, I will tell you that my man leaves for Germany in a little more than a week and will be leaving me in charge of a surlier than usual teenager. Yay!

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  31. Oh, how I remember those days. Bless your sister's heart for taking the kids off your hands. Everyone needs (and you deserve) a break!

    The pictures are precious. You really captured the essence of your story. Take care of YOU!

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  32. yep. we have those days, too.
    i call them my "fetal position days"
    ...cause those are the days my husband comes home and all but finds me in the corner sucking my thumb.

    NOT REALLY...but you get the picture, right?
    :)

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  33. Ruby looks so stunned at his mean look!

    And I have been there. One time I called my husband crying because I felt SOSOSO happy to drop the kids off early at his mothers house, but I also felt super guilty.

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  34. Yes, I've had those days. And every now and then I have someone come to my rescue, too! Isn't it lovely?

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  35. So glad you have someone who is able to give you such a gift. Six quiet hours to a tired momma is a huge blessing. :)

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  36. Have I ever had that kind of day? It was that kind of week. Plus a sick kid that got so comfy at home, she didn't want to go back to school. Plus a husband overseas. Plus a house that I need to start packing. So many have offered me help, but I'm not sure what I need. That is the hardest part, accepting help. So I'm glad to hear you did. Your sis in law is a good one.

    Thanks for the email. I am drafting my reply in my head until I can sit and type it out.

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  37. There are certainly days I wish I could hide in a cupboard.

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  38. What a dreamy SIL you've got yourself. Sent from heaven, that girl is.
    As far as Cute Cupboard Boy goes? Please give him a hug, and then give him a Bump, just from me. Precious little grumpy fella.
    Then turn right around and do the very same for your sweet frazzled self.
    From me, to you.

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  39. Oh sweet thing if I was there we'd bolt. I'd take you and we'd go to a movie and then sit and have dessert somewhere and talk about anything but kids for hours. It would be fabulous. Just close your eyes and picture it. Maybe one day!!! Prayin' for you in the midst of raising those sweet babes. It's not for the weak at heart.

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  40. It's amazing how these little people can drive us to insanity! Your sister is a sweetheart. I hope you totally pampered yourself!

    XO,
    Jane

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  41. I love, love, love that you captured this whole moment in pictures (or maybe it happens often enough to be predicted? :) ) It reminds me of something Bradley Grieve would put in a Blue Day book for kids.

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  42. remember now you must pass on that favor, and you can start with mine:)

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  43. I have the same prayer - to notice need and do something about it. So glad you got to enjoy some time relaxing and resting.

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  44. oh how this post has resonated with me lately...so glad you enjoyed some relaxing time
    xo

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  45. Hmmm, there is a Bollywood Bob episode on Sponge Bob.

    So glad you got the down time needed to rest and refresh your spirit. Everyone needs the opportunity to be missed sometimes.

    Your Friend,
    Deborah

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  46. Who DOESN'T have days like that, Farmgirl? I just wish I had a craft cabinet to hide inside! :-)

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  47. Oh Yes Yes and Yes. I definitely have had some days like this one above - and i only have ONE child! ha. so i can't imagine handling the 3 personalities. I'm posting though - because of that first picture of Silas lol. His face - its priceless. It tells me that he is going to grow up to be strong, determined, and persistent - all wonderful qualities IMO. I've looked at the pic over and over and keep thinking that - thought i would post it for you:) These 3 qualities are ones I came into later in life and WISH i had had earlier. He's going to be an amazing fella!

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  48. I agree with Elizabeth above me...Yes, and I only have one child! I am the only one for her to play with, have an attitude with, be grumpy with and have fun with durning the day. Your 6 hours sound dreamy...
    I love that little Silas face...he is too Cute!

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  49. Sweetest. Thing. Ever. Sometimes a mommy just needs some time without voices. What a gift!
    And you're right--it makes one want to do the same for others.

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  50. Shannan, your kids are adorable. But, as children, there are moments when it looks like they are going to drive us crazy ... it is great to have some free time to relax. I am glad you could do it !!! ... ^___^

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  51. Oh my yes! I remember days like that... but the sweet little things are grown up know.... not to say that I don't still occasionally feel like locking myself away in a small quiet place. Hang in there. Those precious littles will grow up before you know it. I love your blog... I am new here. Stop by and see me sometime.

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  52. I remember days like that and YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!
    Mary Ann

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  53. Can I have your SIL's number? I have two little girls under the age of three and they run me ragged every day! You are in good company with many of us!

    I am glad you had some alone time!

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  54. what an angel she is huh?!!
    so glad you got some rest & feel all better.
    i'm telling ya what, those long winter days cooped up with the youngens....whew!!
    you're a rockstar
    xo

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  55. This post just cracked me up! Bolly Bobo... seriously in the moment kids sure can put mommies over the edge, but looking back at the pictures just makes mommy melt. And your sis-in-law is a superhero. seriously - i picture her in a cape and mask swooping in out of the sky and wisking those three precious kiddos away! what a lifesaver and a God-send.

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