Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Cory

Cory ran on Sunday. He finished his race, the one I teased him mercilessly about months ago, so sure that it was an impossibility.

I should know better by now.

There are many things you don't know about my husband, but there aren't too many that I don't know.

I know that he does not like to be the center of attention, but I also know that he has grown comfortable having eyes on him when necessary.

I know that he has a certain laugh that is entirely contagious. It doesn't come out easily, so when it does? I am powerless to its charms. You would be, too.

I know that he can't go to sleep at night unless he has checked on the kids.

I know he that he instinctively knows the best way to love each person in this house.

I know that he has helped to teach me the meaning of grace.


I know that when he decides to do something, he plans to really do it, even if it's hard.

He almost never gets mad at me.

He never says things he doesn't mean - ever.

He's smart.

He takes his work seriously and is very good at it.

He tells me all of the time, "This could be served in a restaurant!"

He's handy (a.k.a. maintenancy).

He's cute. (duh)

I fell in love with him standing in the middle of a soccer field, in the dark. I prayed silently, "Please, God, let me marry him!"

I look back on that and I am amazed and grateful that God knew so much more about this man than I did. Our road has not always been easy and there were times when we really didn't love each other very much at all. Like it or not, in those moments, my mind would wander back to the soccer field and I would know that it was right, even if it didn't feel right, even if I didn't want it to be right.

God burned that memory into my heart and I am thankful for it.

But mostly, I am thankful for my brave, kind, quirky, maddening, humble, funny Honey.


So tell me, where were you when you knew you were falling?

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ps- Stay tuned for the Tuesday Adoption post. (I've got until midnight, right?)

49 comments:

  1. I never knew...I fought it all the way. Larry always said he wasn't getting married. He didnt' want kids. Then one day he asked me to marry him...and one day he said, "Let's try to get pregnant"....and one day he said, "I know you want more...let's have another."

    I can't tell you when I fell in love with my husband. It was more of a slide into love for me...but I can tell you dozens of reasons I fall DEEPER in love with him every single week.

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  2. sitting on a dryer in a Lowell house at Bethel...talking to 'HIM' on the phone...hearing his God call match up with mine...still gives me strength and confidence and chills.

    (and we will wait until midnight if we HAVE TO!)

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  3. In a classroom at the Moody Bible Institute in Chicago, I walked in late...go figure, and everyone was down on their knees praying, I crawled in, hoping not to be noticed. The voice I heard praying changed my life forever, without even seeing his face, I fell in love. My next prayer was, please God make him be cute..... and when I opened my eyes he was looking right at me. Oh... God answered my prayer:) End of story, 19 years ago.

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  4. We were sitting at an outdoor table eating our first meal together in the empty downtown of an old Southern railroad town.

    I realized that we were watching each other in the window, too shy to look into the others eyes...it was then that I knew. It was just to much to believe...and here we are happy as clams five years later.

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  5. The One moment that I knew? I was at my bf's house, sitting on the couch watching a horrible movie, in between my crush and my bf's cousin. The cousin kept poking me in the side so I poked him back and he kept my hand and held it through the rest of the movie. The crush was over...I married my bf's cousin. The cousin became my bf and my bf became my cousin:) Actually, today is our dating anniversary-13 years!

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  6. I didn't.

    I disliked, then I crushed, then I grew Kind of Partial To, then I grew Very Partial To, then I questioned, then I disliked, then I broke up, then I cried, then I Decided To Love. Our marriage is a swirl of all of the above, all of the time.

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  7. sitting next to Stephen in his 1973 jeep cj5 parked at the beach on a summer evening. He brought a bottle of champagne and chocolate covered strawberries - that was it for me. Love your post, Lori

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  8. Basement of the dorms at Ball State...smushed against the cinderblock wall painted dull yellow with grey flecked laminate tiles under our feet....as he kissed me hard and confessed his love. *sigh*

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  9. At a frat party when he literally picked me up off the ground and it felt safe not scary. Then I met his two year old daughter a few weeks latter and saw her raw trust in him. I had to have them both.

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  10. Sitting in his room in his fraternity giggling at the thought that he was going to college to study grass.

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  11. Seeing his big smile greeting me as I came in the door to church. Sigh...

    I loved this post! I'm sure he'd say all the same and more about you too!

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  12. I knew I had fallen for my hubby while sitting at a Chevron watching him pump my gas. It's a long story :)
    Congrats to Cory on his awesome accomplishment!

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  13. I was standing in front of and old theater from the '30s I was in my faded overalls and he in his vintage guayabera shirt. That was thirteen years ago.

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  14. Can't wait to meet this CMB of yours Shab. I knew Glenny was the one when he was playing his guitar in church, and I looked at him, and thought - "why I'd like to make that man breakfast for the rest of my life".

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  15. Funny, real, GOD seeker, fantastic Daddy, helpful, kind beyond measure, a true giver, lover of great books, steadfast and immovable in the things that really count, committed, hard worker, respectful, Calvinist,true to his word, lover of history, fantastic photographer, comes from a wonderful loving family, and most of all the God chosen husband of my daughter, who he loves more than himself. Our lives have never been the same since we walked into your Bethel dorm room and met the man we knew beyond a shadow of a doubt would be a part of our family circle. I also knew when you called and casually asked how to make a red raspberry pie. Congratulations Cory, I too am sorry for giving you such a hard time about the race!

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  16. He wasn't even with me. I remember being parked in a mall parking garage telling my mom about this guy I started dating. I even remember which parking spot. But I didn't really know until I heard the words coming out of my mouth when we had only been dating for 2 weeks.

    what a great post! I really love men (and women) that dig their spouses.

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  17. "Honey" seems to be the running name for the hubbies that are totally hot. My honey and I were friends for a long time before I actually knew he was the one, so I can't really say there was a place, but rather a road toward falling head over hills after him.

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  18. We were in Mexico on a missions trip with a bunch of junior highers. He was checking out our interpreter and I was keeping my "eye" on him. Seeing him in a different light then what I had before.

    Chalena

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  19. We met one night through friends when Daryn was home on leave. The next morning I went and told my mom that I had met the man I was going to marry. We wrote each other non stop for the six long months months he was away. Finally, he was home again, and we went out for coffee. This was now only the second time I had seen his hazel eyes that still make me melt. The evening was ending and he gave me one sweet simple kiss goodnight before he got out of my car and walked in his house. My heart blushed and then bloomed, and I cried the whole way home. I was overwhelmed by knowing that this man was going to be my husband, and that it was all God's plan. We were married three months later and still are 17 years later. Thank you God!

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  20. I knew before he did. We dated when he was 19 and I was 25 (cradle-robber!!) We broke up, stayed friends (because I was still in love with him.) Then we didn't speak for 5 years, and when I was in a horrible relationship we somehow found eachother again and 3 months later he asked me to marry him. He was the one I never got over.

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  21. on a double date - but not with my own date! it was the cute funny guy across the table that i fell in love with. and now he still sits across the table scrunched in between three kids!

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  22. Sitting in the freezing, pouring rain in Furman's football stadium on a Saturday while "watching" a marching band competition.
    He had an umbrella and invited me to sit under it with him. That was all she wrote. I was gone.

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  23. Talking on a porch swing after he had gotten his sweatshirt out of the car for me. He melted my 20 year old heart and I still wear the sweatshirt 16 years later.

    p.s. Your mama's comment was the best!

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  24. Love this post Shannon. I bet his head is going to explode with love for you. It's good to remember why we love them so much and why we are with them in the first place.

    I was a young thing...maybe 15. Him and his sister were sitting in church a few rows up. I had never seen him before and I thought his sister might be his girlfriend. When I saw him lift his hands to worship the Lord...eyes closed in love with his savior I knew. I remember thinking Lord let that NOT be his girlfriend:) We were friends for quite a while before it became official. So glad for that. God had to reveal my true feelings. That was over 20 years ago. OH MY!

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  25. I was in his black chevy impala at the end of our first (and blind, I might add) date. I knew I was fallin when he turned to me and asked me if he could just pray with me before I went inside to give our relationship to God. I went inside to my then waiting family and declared, "I'm going to marry that man, I tell you!" We did. And it's been 10 years now and 3 kids later. Still in love. (But if I can just add one disclaimer...That was my first and last blind date.)

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  26. I do believe I fell in love with hubby when he took me and my baby son out to lunch and son was sitting in the highchair, and this strange man who I just met took his napkin and wiped a drop of milk off my sons chin. And every time he would come into the gas station where I worked, he would purchase a small toy for me to bring home to my son... but, was that real love? probably not... that has developed over the last 17 years through ups and downs, and wanting to divorce each other at times, but choosing to stay married instead. baby son just turned 20 on Sunday.

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  27. I was getting busy on the dance floor while wearing a flannel shirt and a black belt...

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  28. i love your dreamy cory post! and i love that you have a searchable subject heading of handsome men. :)

    ....my man had me in the highschool hallway wearing his light yellow polo shirt. :)

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  29. Driving down the road in his old beat up truck, he turned to me and said oh, so quietly, marry me. And I did.

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  30. This is just the sweetest post. I love it!

    I knew it one day while sitting in my dorm room after yet another fight with my guy. I could really dish it out, and we fought like crazy during our courtship. (Oh, who am I kidding--we fought like crazy for the first 15 years of our marriage! The last 10 have been a cakewalk.) But anyway, I knew I had wronged him during that particular fight, and yet he kept coming back and coming back for more. All of a sudden I realized that I'd better shape up because nobody else on the face of the planet would take all that I could dish out and still keep loving me the way he did.

    We married as soon as we graduated. Twenty-five years ago. And I love him more now than I did then.

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  31. I guess I kinda knew when we had our first big fight, and it was on our second date. There was a good slap across the face, a silent 3 hours drive home, and then an unexpected smooch at the airport. I just couldn't resist, I grabbed him and laid a big one on him. I knew I was falling.

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  32. I KNEW he was the One, when we were in the 7th grade together, in the three room school we attended.
    My Honey-bun has the same temperament as Cory, and I am so blessed!
    We will celebrate our 53yrs. together in two weeks. God has truly blessed our lives!!

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  33. sitting on the stairs outside the apartment he shared with three other guys. It was too noisy, he said. What he really wanted was to kiss me when no one was looking. 16 years later, and very little has changed. He is my heart and soul and still won't kiss me if anyone is around...

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  34. On our blind date, standing beside my car in a mall parking lot, not wanting to leave him because I was afraid I'd never see him again. That was exactly 26 years, 5 months and 3 days ago. We have now been married for 25+ years and love each other more than ever. It's such a wonderful thing, to find God's choice for your other half!

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  35. I told him I'd always wanted to raise a few chickens and grow my own Christmas trees. He looked at my very strangely (sort of like I had three heads but I get that all the time) which made me a little worried, then he smiled and said he had always wanted to grow his own Christmas trees too. We both knew it then.

    Congrats to Cory for finishing the race. 5k is the most I've ever been able to do; I know it takes a lot of work to build up to a half marathon. Way to go FPFB!

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  36. Very sweet! I have to say it was out to dinner, sitting across the table from him when he said if he moved away to look for a job he wouldn't be going by himself!

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  37. Yay Cory! I am proud of that man! I wouldn't even attempt a run.
    I fell in love with my husband when were 15 and rode the bus together., He got on and I thought- where has he been?? , it was several weeks into the school year. He had been at football practice and didn't ride til the season was over. We teased each other a lot, then one day he walked up behind me and swung me around in the air and I thought" Wow he is the cutest!" There were ups and downs as we grew up but almost 36 years later, he still makes me weak in the knees!

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  38. here visiting on a suggestion by edie... :)
    he sounds incredible...

    i was standing under the eve of a pizza hut, dodging the rain... and it was 1988.

    hmmm.. thanks for the memory

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  39. Your mom's words make my eyes burn and my nose run. What a great bunch of people all of you are. I am extremely honored to know a little about your family through your words, if never in person. As far as when I knew my husband was the one, we shared a moment that we both felt and we just knew. A simple kiss that was so powerful I couldn't even begin to explain how it felt and we both felt it. After 10 years of marriage, we have never had a moment like it again. But we have had some good years together and only a few trying ones.

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  40. After first meeting the Mr, I was intrigued as he could put me in check. This was also his intrigue with me. But since that first meeting I actually fall more in love with him each day. But really the first time I knew...was a moment on the dance floor (mind you, I am terrible at it). It only solidified the feelings of our first meeting when I had a huge feeling. That was the moment. And as I said it grow with each morning I wake up with him. His continued effort is amazing. Sometimes simply showing up for the good, the bad, the ugly is the most telling of all.

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  41. It was on our first date. We began at Barnes and Noble, next found ourselves on a bench overlooking the Mississippi River where we had our first kiss which was followed by us waiting in the lobby of the Peabody Hotel in Memphis ordering a lunch that we were going to take and eat on the roof. As we waited that sweet man wrapped his arms around me and leaned down and tenderly kissed me on the forehead. I will never forget that moment. I knew that he would love me and take care of me for the rest of my life and now whenever I see someone kiss someone on the forehead I know that it's the real thing.

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  42. clint and i were good friends - i thought of him like a brother. then we (along with several others) went on a missions trip to mexico and the whole team bonded so closely. that same group got together in arizonia (a bunch of us from IL roadtripped it out there) and on that trip i started to see clint differently. started to see qualities in him that made me think (i want my husband to be like that). when i went home, i talked all about the trip and clint's name kept coming up. that's when i said, "i talked about clint so much i MUST like him!" i was only 17 at the time but that moment changed everything. i could no longer look at him like a brother! :) we got married when i was only 19 and now 10 years later, he is still the only man for me. i love him so dearly. i feel so blessed!

    your post was beautiful and i love your soccer field experience!

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  43. I was a junior in high school, he was a freshman at the university of dayon. I walked up to a college party with my girlfriends and entered through the back door. He was sitting on a chair one leg up wearing his high school track wind breaker. I asked, "do you run?" I like to run. It was love at first sight, 20 years ago.

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  44. I met Jade when I was 14. My Dad forbid me to date him b/c he was 16 - which obviously didn't work. Now they are best friends :) It didn't take long & I knew he was the one for me. He was interesting, funny, & challenging compared to every guy I had ever met. I wasn't always right & I liked that he had his opinion. We've had our low points too, but almost 14 years later he's still the one! I've spent half my life with him this year - isn't that crazy! I love him more than I ever have though. Oh and congrats to your man - what an accomplishment!

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  45. Spending a weekend with his family, which is odd, because his family drives me a little nuts now! (Or a LOT nuts sometimes.) But I love him so much, my annoyance with them is just static in the background.

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  46. Ha this is great! I can definitely relate to those moments of questioning and frustration yet always knowing deep down inside that THIS is the man for you.....

    I married my husband 9 weeks after meeting him for the second time (first time was brief and 6 years prior at a BBQ). I knew he was what I'd spent the last 7 years hoping, praying, and looking for after spending 3 days together: New Years dancing to Sweet Home Alabama with his best friends looking on, I told him he was IT. Two weeks later after the conclusion of his holiday leave from the Army, he told me we were getting married and I agreed....

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  47. My hubby was hanging out with my roommate in college, and when she left the room to go to the bathroom, he sat there praying to see if she was the one - at that moment I walked back in after a class and he said he felt like he got hit in the back of the head by God saying "Wrong roommate: THIS is the one I have for you!" We started dating a few months later but he didn't tell me about that moment until we'd been dating a month or so (and then it was in a letter). When I read the letter, I knew too, it was just so clear. God perfectly matched us, and I am so blessed to have him!

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  49. I seriously don't believe it. I swear I could have written this post myself!! Except my honey is the one who cooks food worthy of being served in a restaurant and we were sitting in a soccer field - not standing in it - in the dark, watching the stars. And in that moment I just knew. We both had the same image that jumped into our heads, seeing us married with wonderful kids at our side. We just knew. Even on the night he proposed buy a pond right next to that same soccer field, I wasn't sure what to say. I was nervous. I was uncertain. I didn't trust myself. So I prayed for God to give me the right answer, to know what to say. And before I had even finished that prayer, I had answered yes. It hasn't always been easy; we certainly have things we struggle with, but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is what God had ordained for us. And I am very, very grateful.

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