Tuesday, January 12, 2010

2.

Where was I?

Right - Number 2.

2. Okay, here's the deal. I've been engaged twice. To the same guy. Some of you may know him as Cory, some may know him as Mr. Flower Patch Farmgirl. Others still may know him as my personal, lurking-in-the-shadows paparazzo. Here's the short version of the story. (Come on, have faith in me!)

I met Cory when I was a Junior in college. He was a Freshman. (I know.) He worked part time on the campus maintenance crew. I didn't know who he was or what his name was but holy cow, he was a looker. At a loss for a better, more effective option, Sarah and I began referring to him to one another as "Cute Maintenance Boy". Over the next several weeks, I began to notice a certain Cute Maintenance Boy sort of stalking me. And trust me, I was not used to being stalked. (Looking back, this may have been an early indication of his lurky ways?) He seemed to pop up in the strangest places, at the oddest times. Yadda yadda, thanks to extensive assistance from a mutual friend, he asked me out.

On our second or third date I remember silently praying, "Please, Lord, let me marry him!"

We were so loopy-sappy-lovey-dovey. We were complete goners. Both of us. We never, ever fought. We believed the other was faultless. I remember telling his mom that he never had bad breath. I don't recall why we were discussing his breath, but surely we had our reasons.

The next year, we were engaged, with a plan to get married a month after I graduated.

Fast forward to two weeks pre-wedding. It's all a bit blurry now, but suffice it to say that I initiated what turned out to be a major, mutual melt-down. I freaked out. I did not have cold feet, but I suddenly realized that we were weeks away from getting married and Cory still had 2 years of college left and we had not lined up a place to live and I would be our sole breadwinner and I had no clue where I would be working after gettin' hitched and moving back to Indiana.

We were so lovesick (and young, let's be honest) that we neglected to worry about real life stuff like jobs and four walls with a roof.

After much ado and buckets of tears, we decided to call the wedding off. 2. weeks. before. our. wedding. date. Drama-rama. I remember very little of that time, because I was mostly busy crying and not eating. Our moms made all of the necessary calls and I believe I spent our "wedding day" swimming at a friend's pool with my mom and my sister. Rumor has it that my favorite high school teacher arrived at an entirely empty church that day. Ugh.

We did not break up. We were still together.

And then I wanted to break up, and we were not still together.

And Cory was heartbroken.

And then I wanted to not be broken up - I wanted to be back together...

But Cory wanted to be broken up.

And I was heartbroken.

Through all of this, I was in Ohio, working my first official job as a Social Worker, eating 2 doughnuts a day on my morning break. Cory was in Indiana, at college, fending off random pretty girls attempting to gift him with unexplained bags of candy and the like.

Then finally, we were back.

I thought the best course of action at that point would be to begin a relentless re-engagement campaign wrought with much whining and melodrama. I mean, why wouldn't he want to re-engage with a moody whiner?

At last, the campaign ended in the parking lot of Pizza Hut in Ft. Wayne, IN. He had had enough of my griping and as we sat in the car, waiting out a torrential downpour, he reached over, ring in hand, and asked me to marry him again. This time, I was surprised. I had not anticipated the Pizza Hut proposal. I was elated.

We ran in and planned our wedding over The Big New Yorker. (Remember that?)

We were married 4 months later. We had weathered a storm that most had mentally written us off over. And we were better and stronger for it. Our big day was perfect and fun. My cheeks hurt from smiling so hard. I understand sentimentality and I did shed a few tears of my own, but my wish for every bride is to smile so hard on that day that her cheeks ache.

48 comments:

  1. That was an awesome random story. Sniff, sniff. Loved it. Funny enough me and my Big Guy also called off our wedding. Like 2 months before. It was so awful. Our reasons were due to family meddling. We ended going on what we called our "very merry un-honeymoon" (You know that song right?) Anyway, his Dad had already paid for our honeymoon in Maui at a shi-shi resort so we decided to make the most out of a depressing and almost devastating to our relationship situation and go to Maui...well surprise...I got pregnant. The universe was really gunning for us to stay together. We eloped (which I still have some regrets about) but we have two beauties and 13 years under our belts. And like you..we lived happily ever after. Sheesh...Maybe I should've posted that on my own blog! Can't wait for 3!

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  2. You are just too cute and now so are your commenters! Sheesh, I am going back to my blog and wash all this cuteness off :)

    PS. I am going to my first flea market on Friday. It's in an old Walmart building in Rockwood, TN (just incase I am never heard from again).

    XOXO-

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  3. seriously loved reading this story. so glad it ended perfectly:)

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  4. 'the relentless re-engagment campaign'... I am laughing so hard, the whole story is a HOOT. and so real, I have no doubt. Drama-rama. You said it, sista. But unfortunately for me-no amount of do-overs seem to undo the drama-rama. do I sound like this is a familar experience? Let's just say, I'll be sending folks over to your blog, if they want to hear about and engagment - un-engagement story... Your's ended so much nicer. :) but I am happy the way things turned out for me! Wouldn't change a thing!!
    Loved this story- really-

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  5. Supposed to elope in Vegas, chickened out. Got re-engaged while pumping gas at a Chevron (I totally get the whole Pizza Hut thing, low pressure). Big white dress, exhausted cheeks, 3 kids and 13 years later I would do it all again exactly the same way. Thanks for a great story!

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  6. Awesome story! So hard to be young and in love! my husband and I met 3 months later engaged and one year later married..that was it..but, its been a rough road and it good to see others go through it too..lulu

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  7. What a great story... love never fails & yours withstood the storm yay you guys!!!
    Mine wasn't a re-engagement or anything like that, mine was a 12 year journey to get him to get ready! We started out in high school - me freshman, him sophmore. the college years were tough breaking up for a day or two & then coming back together. We too never fought we just fit. Finally after 11 years together I was done! I wanted to live with the love of my life, to be a wife, a mom... I told him I was done. We split... he kept coming around. Nothing changed he liked the set up we had, I however didn't I did what I thought I would NEVER do, I gave the ultimatium. He had 2 weeks to figure it out. At the end of 2 weeks he played the game. He thought he could continue to get his way. I did not give in. It was a step forward or nothing at all. I just wanted some sign of real commitment. Moving in together was what I thought I'd get. What I got was - why don't we get married. I didn't even hear it, I kept complaining & telling him I was done. He sat quite for 45 minutes. Finally I yelled "what is wrong with you, why don't you have anything to say!" He looked me dead in the eye & said "I asked you to marry me & you just kept yelling" I then said "you were serious?" I started crying with excitement. I didn't in a million years think it would FINALLY happen. The rest is history... we have now been married almost 6 years and have 3 beautiful daughters 4, 2 & 4 months. Thank God I waited... I know we were meant for eachother. He is an amazing husband & father. Who would have ever thought that the one time I had patience it would turn out so wonderfully :)

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  8. Love it, love it, love it! I love a great love story and a happy ending!

    (Yeah, okay ... waaaay too much love! Back to my carpet reno -- not love-ly at all!)

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  9. Great story! HURRAY FOR LOVE!
    Love the way you tell it . . . you have talent and a voice as a writer . . . keep up the good work! ; )

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  10. P-dub ain't got nothin' on you! Great story and this is only number 2. I'll definitely be back tomorrow for more of your facinating randomness.

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  11. That was the most incredible, romantic, inspiring thing I may have ever read. I love you and Cory. Just meant to be. That's all. I can't wait to meet that guy myself. He must be something else.

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  12. Now THAT is an amazing story!! LOVE it!

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  13. I just love a great love story and I'm so glad your cheeks hurt on your wedding day! Mine did on ours!

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  14. Now, THAT is a story. Love everything about it...especially the planning over the Big New Yorker. Fabulous. It is all part of the journey!

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  15. My cheeks hurt too, so I guess that's a good sign, and we're coming up on 26 years this summer. (I was 12 when we got married.) This story is so great it should be a movie.....Nicole Kidman could play you, and Cory could be played by....hmmmm, any suggestions?

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  16. when you find your soulmate there is NOTHING from stopping you from being together. Great story. All the best, Lori

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  17. What a great story! When you find the right one you just know it! Jade & I had a few bumps & breakups along the way (18 was a hard age for us both!) However, we always came back to each other & now share a wonderful marriage as best friends and soul mates!

    Cheers to you and the hubs! I hope he's still a cute maintenance worker for your home projects now ;)

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  18. Hey! this twice-baked was funny,interesting,and (I) hung on every word, would love to see wedding pic.

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  19. Awwww what a great story. So glad you made it and he didn't get scared off:) Sounds like a wonderful love story!

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  20. That was one of the best engaged, break up, engaged, marry, LOVE story I have ever heard. LOVE IT!

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  21. I think there is something to be said about destiny, you were destin to be together...I also think there is something to be said about timing...you found the right time, when it was right for the two of you! I am so glad everything worked out, and that you were able to have aching cheeks..that is the best memory, isn't it!

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  22. I've just discovered your blog. I love it. I just have to say that you are as cute as a button!
    ~Tara

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  23. Aw that was the sweetest story, and even better, a true one!

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  24. What a beautiful and romantic love story, thanks for sharing!

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  25. Love your story! and the way you tell it. Can't wait to hear 3.

    Michelle

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  26. your story is so cute, as per usual:)

    oh, and my cheeks/face hurt too,(i remember being annoyed by that, go figure) and i'm not much of a smiley/happy human, you know? so i guess that's probably a good sign.

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  27. I think I've heard it at least 10 times and I love it a bit more every time - you guys were meant to be together :) And now you know beyond a shadow of a doubt Cory is perfect for you because of everything you guys went through together.

    love you friend
    xoxo

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  28. I love that story! I love that you made it through together and after it all you are here...together.
    Blessings,
    Nora

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  29. First, really, you didn't have a stalker before Cory? (Or wait, was that after Cory?) I rememger a certain BG being somewhat of a stalker in college. Second, ahhh, code names, I miss them, we've whittled them down to boring on ones like R. Favs: Dangerous Tea Boy (my fav), AEO Boy, U2 (as in Unattainable 2...who was U1, i forget), frick, I can't remember the others!

    I remember well right after the break-up engagment driving somewhere over near Troy on that 25-A road and eating or shopping or something. And we were in the car and you were SO sad...

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  30. Say it with me, "Lifetime Television Movie"!

    That's a good story!!!!!!!!!!!

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  31. Love these glimpses of your life. I think Edward Norton should play Cory in the movie. :-D

    I dated Glenco a week, we got engaged, six months later, got married.

    Can't wait to read #3.

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  32. What a sweet story! I really enjoyed it.

    -FringeGirl

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  33. I am so glad it worked out.... 2 years older! You are such a cougar! ;)

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  34. How well I remember the phone calls!! I knew you were meant to be together though, "And they lived happily ever after".

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  35. beautimous!! love it so very much, what a great tale to tell forever.

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  36. Love your Love Story! Pizza Hut engagement? Mine was Alley Oops.:) I'm sure your wedding was as beautiful as the engagement!

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  37. What a great story! My fondest wish is to someday have that kind of love. You are a lucky woman.

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  38. Okay. This is crazy. I was JUST wondering about this TODAY. I don't know why. I have no idea what even triggered it.

    But now I know. :) I'm happy you guys got married.

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  39. Man alive, you are an A-ONE WRITER!

    I love this story...

    I love how real it is!

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