Friday, August 14, 2009

For Your Weekend Entertainment a.k.a. The Life and Times of Two Very Innocent, Boy-Crazy 15 Year-Olds

Have I ever told you about my best gal, Sarah? Well, we go way back. Back to the tender age of 15. We met at Bible study and she grabbed my arm, saying "We're going to be friends." It was not a request, it was more of a demand. Who was I to argue with that?

So, we were.

And, we are.

18 years later, we are still alive and kicking, with less than 20 miles between us. Amazing, isn't it? Especially considering that we grew up 3.5 hours away from here...and still landed permanently in the same place.

We always knew our friendship was Cosmic.

Sarah and I went to different schools and grew up during the era of long-distance phone calls. We could rarely talk on the phone, because we didn't have two nickels to rub together and our Dads made us pay for every last cent of our phone bills. To pass the time until we could see one another next, we wrote notes. Then, we traded them in person, meanwhile talking about everything that we wrote about in the notes. Roughly 95% of the content of these notes concerned a few particular boys. There was some rotation, but there were also a couple of regulars who never really went away. These boys did not like us back, although Sarah did end up on a bonafide date or two with her main squeeze and even got a smooch from him.

Several years back, Sarah gifted me with a laminated, spiral bound notebook of some of the notes I had given to her over the course of 1991-1992. The cover is a collage of some of our favorite things during that era: the cast of 90210, GAP, SNL, a picture of our beloved youth pastor, Amy Grant, Out of the Grey and a picture of one particular boy who was our on-again-off-again shared, entirely unrequited crush for several years running. Ooooh, he was cute.

I unearthed the notebook yesterday and read some bits aloud to Cory until we were laughing so hard that we were crying. It only seems fitting to share a few of the key nuggets with you now.

Please, remember, we were 15. We were not the cool girls. We did not go to parties or do naughty things. Our favorite past-time was dissecting our crushes and encouraging each other to believe that one fine day, these boys would see the light.

15, I tell you. (We'll save the discussion of my attire for another day...)

I present to you now, the ever-spiritual and oh-so-wise Shannan, circa 1991.


"Sarah, I think I'm in love, too. My only problem is that I can't figure out which one it is. I wonder if it's possible to love two people at the same time? Probably not."

Me again. Ah, the age-old question. If only someone had told me that the primary prerequisite of being "in love" is having the other person (or persons, as the case seems to have been) love you back. But, I digress...

"I've never felt so sure about being over John. He's a nice guy and all (most of the time), but for some reason, I know it's Ike. I don't want to settle for anything less than Ike. I will wait! You've gotta wait too. It might not seem that easy at times but we're both pretty much in the same situation so we've got to lean on each other and get through this. I told you this before, but I'll say it again - I KNOW it will all work out! The Bible says "Good things come to those who wait." Patience! And we really can't neglect the Lord. (I'm not saying we are - I'm just saying we can't.) Right now's a time when we need him most...Someday (soon!) we're gonna look at each other and cry happy, ecstatic tears as we think of how blessed we are to have Pat and Ike and to know that they love us as much as we love them!"

Oh, girls....Oh, my...

Here's one last excerpt, and it's a doozey:

12-25-91 (It's true, we didn't even take Christmas off.)
"I have prayed so much since Monday night and I've come to realize a few things about my situation and they also can apply to you. The main thing is what I've already said - the Lord is in control. We just have to step back and let him work it out. He knows what he's doing and there's no way he'll let us down because he loves us so much and I really think that our guy problems are important to him. Think of what happened to me - I stepped back and gave it to Jesus and I got to ride alone in hot Ike's cool car with hot Ike sitting beside me looking very studly in his glasses!"

Please, please, Lord, let Ruby be this innocent and let her "problems" be exactly this "big", when she is 15. And for her own, personal, future enjoyment, make sure she documents every single word.

**Names have been modified to protect the identities of silly boys who didn't know a good thing when they saw it.


  1. This is such a crack up!! You two must have been quite the pair and yes those boys must have been crazy not to fall head over heels for you guys. I for one am glad Cory won out over Ike in your case:)

  2. Hey I love that jesus/devil shirt!!

  3. I was not raised in a Christian home and thus I surely wasn't writing letters like this when I was 15...what a shining example you were to one another...even quoting scripture in your letters! Love it! These are precious!

  4. Oh where to begin? I could start a blog with all of my pennings from those days. I checked out my journal this morning, melodramatic, melancholy fun. However, to compare, here are snippets from my 1991 wrap-up, written on Dec. 25, 1991 in my diary!
    "...guys, Ron ended, crushes on Matt Sheridan and Matt Right. Falling in with with Thomas at camp. Watching Thomas with a girlfriend, a minor fling with Chris Rismiller, going with Chris Hensel by a big misunderstanding - Yea, deep down I am a hopeless romantic...Myfest, Bethel, rooming with Linda Sell, 24 washrags, Staying up all night in Shannan's room. Bus broke down, I walked away with a new best friend (:D) and love. The Stone boys. Youth camp, Hurl! Gag! Chester and all his stuff. JH and Shannan, Matt and Nikki, Ron and Missy H. Getting to know Brad P, Rob F., Chris beach volleyball...BIBLE!!! The END. Sour. And newest RALPH!! I want to hurl backwards up a tree...And TV, AW is HOT. Dean and Jenna (Ladykiller), Jake and Paulina, ...DAYS OF OUR LIVES STILL RULES, Jack and Jen finally got married...And new BH90210. OH I love it! David and Donna, Brenda and Dylan, Brandon and Andrea, Steve and Kelly. So many social issues, sex, drugs, alcohol, death, breast cancer, teen preg., wheelchair, rape, adoption, discrimination, obsessiveness, moving, divorce, jail, parents and kids, minorities, police, friendships. Loves Luke Perry and my love for David and Donna - It's not such a bad show!.."

    I will spare you the rest, thanks for indulging!

  5. Sarah - You're confusing me with this "Thomas" bit...his name was PAT! :) And your list of 90210 "social issues", which includes "wheelchair" and "moving" never gets old.

  6. LOL ... I love this! It's been so long since I was that age, it's hard to remember those days. However, have a teenaged girl now, so some of it is coming back to me as I watch her.
    Thanks for making me smile.


  7. That is the most precious post ever! and amen on our girl's biggest problems being like yours!
    Too sweet!

  8. I am pretty sure I have some identical letters (boys names different of course) and journal entries! Oh, those were the days!!

  9. Nothing like a lifelong friend. You two are so cute together. Have a great weekend.

  10. Oh you sweet, silly girls! I love that you shared that. No way would I have done that to myself. I hope your wishes for Ruby come true.

  11. Oh my goodness, that's hilarious! My girlfriends and I wrote TONS of notes. We also had notebooks that we'd send back and forth. I still have them all, I should wade through some of them too. I'm sure it's provide a good laugh.

    Aaaahhhh, memories. :)

  12. :) :) :) HIL-AR-IOUS! You make me smile. I know I am not getting out my journals to share...I'm pretty certain I have penned some of the same exact things. I hope you and Sarah had a great time together, you guys are a riot.

  13. I am falling on the floor laughing. Why did we record these things??? My journals are equally as melodramatic. It is a practice in humility to revisit them occasionally. :) I am glad I am not the only one who was this silly.

  14. I love this! Such a great, funny piece x

  15. Your funny gals! What sweet drama to have! Love the hair by the way!! You had those mall bangs going on! Traci

  16. my 13 1/2 yr old id in the throes of her first love and it is bittersweet............i pray she makes it thru and can laugh about it as you do.......thanks for the memories

  17. Ahhhhh, that makes me laugh SO hard every time I read it! I'm glad your prayers didn't come true.

  18. THIS is soooo cute!! what a very special friendship you two have.

  19. Shan, maybe now is the time to dig out our old emails circa your DC days and fashion them into a blog? :) (Or a book?) HA!

  20. Oh this makes me miss my old friends so much!!! Cute post!

  21. first of all... LOVE the otufit! Love the way your he love me/loves me not t shirt nicely *poofs* out of the top of your jeans! but most of all I love the innocence you shared at 15. Your love for the Lord... Your trust being developed in him. OH I pray this over my girls as well. Its brings back so many memories of me and my silly girlfriends!

  22. i just had this really horrifying thought...what happened to my notebooks from high school? i am envisioning my mother sitting in her basement right now laughing her head off...while i sit helplessly at work! yikes! very funny post!

  23. Yes, plese, may our girls be that innocent!!! I love the letters and it makes me think of all your fun crushes. Especially a very quiet boy with pretty eyes I seem to remember!!! It also brought back some funny memories from Creation. Thanks for the laugh.

  24. Oh, those were the days! You girls should write a novel it would be a best seller. But I am so happy all those best laid plans fell through. Who could ever take the place of my favorite son in-law?? I am sure there are several young men out in the world who are kicking themselves.

  25. There are so many things I want to comment, so, so many.
    You are my new hero. Seriously the funniest thing I've read. EVER.
    My notes weren't even that funny. I also had to throw some of them away, because they were somewhat incriminating. :(
    I think all my youthful crime could have been avoided though, IF I had a shirt like that. Powerful stuff.